Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2013 - Temecula, California
I was just wondering.
I know it’s going to happen, because my SO has said he’s ready to marry me. He wants to get married as soon as possible. It’s just he doesn’t have a great deal of money to spend on a ring let alone a wedding. Now he doesn’t want to wait until we’re financially set because if we did hell we’ll never get married.
I’ve told him I don’t care what kind of ring as long as it’s from him, but he’s just set on getting me a nice ring I won’t be ashamed of showing off. I’ve told him I’ll show it off proudly to the world even it came from a gumball machine I don’t care. He’s still set on getting a great ring, and I really appreciate he would go that but still…
He doesn’t have the money for it…..
I guess this was a rant/Question
I just wanted to know I wasn’t the only person in the financial boat.
Post # 3
We waited an extra year to get engaged for financial reasons!
Post # 4
The main reason we’re waiting is because he’s fresh out of college & I still have a year before I get my BA (plus an additional year for my BEd afterwards). This lack of “grown up jobs” = no money = no proposal.
I feel you. 🙁
Post # 5
I think part of the reason we waited was financial. We didn’t wait that long, but it was very long in our circles. We had several reasons, but one was that we thought it would be nice to graduate from college before the wedding.
Post # 6
My SO and I graduated in May and we’ve both been unemployed all summer (not a good combo with moving to a new city). We’ve talked about it and we’re ready to get engaged, we’ve even done some wedding planning, but right now we’re using the last of my savings to pay rent. We both got jobs as of 3 weeks ago, but the paychecks haven’t really started coming in yet (we’ve both gotten partials). So I’m still waiting for my ring even though the one I want is under $500. I’m probably not going to get it for our sixth anniversay which is in 2 days. But, apparently my bf has a ‘scheme in the works’. So while the stupid economy might slow us down it won’t stop us.
Post # 7
I’m actually not sure! My SO has astronomical studen loan debt… But the ring I’d want is way cheap (moissanite) and my parents will pay for the wedding. Still though, the debt really weighs on him, so I could see how he’d want to wait…
Post # 8
@Batsygirl: I’m totally in the financial boat, and I want to pull my hair out. SO had a savings account with 10,000+ in it and promised me he would propose by our next anniversary. Then things went down in the next 5 months- he quit his job, he went back to school, lost his roommate (he was deployed) and had to move into a place of his own, and all his savings went to all that. Except he never told me he was struggling financially. At one point his savings ran out and he had to ask me for a loan to pay his rent. I had no idea he was struggling financially because he didn’t tell me or act any differently with his spending habits. I tried to be understanding but I was so frustrated that he wasn’t open and honest with me about it. He told me he would not be able to propose to me and I was disappointed to say the least. I gave him another year. We have looked at some rings, and I found some inexpensive ones I liked but he wants to spend more money on a ring for me. I told him I really didn’t need or want an expensive ring but he admitted that he was too prideful to buy an inexpensive ring. We also wanted to get married on our anniversary in 2014 but I’m a little worried he won’t propose to make it happen in time. I don’t want to push my life back a year. It’s so frustrating and it is the only thing we argue about, so awful!! And now I just resent him for it and feel like our engagement is ruined by the bad feelings about the situation. And don’t even get me started about how expensive weddings are (and we will probably have to pay for it ourselves so (from a realistic standpoint) it just seems impossible).
Post # 9
Hi, we’re ok financially, we’re fully capable of saving lots for the big day…..