(Closed) whos writting or wrote their own vows?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did you or Are you writting your own vows
    yes, it is so much fun and means a lot : (63 votes)
    70 %
    no, not a big deal, keeping it traditional : (21 votes)
    23 %
    other, explaine : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    23609 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We did, even though it was the hardest thing we could have done! We had our friend act as our officiant (deputy for the day), and he had a great time writing the ceremony with us! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted other.  We are not writing our own vows, but its because the traditional ceremony is important to us, not because we don’t think the vows are a big deal.  We are having our wedding at a methodist church and we are using the traditional methodist ceremony.  FI and I sat down and read through it together and we both loved it.  We felt like it focused on the marriage- the actual covenant between Fiance and me.  There are some people who have written their own vows where I’ve thought “wow that was beautiful, but what did it have to do with them being married.” I can understand why some brides do write their own, and if thats whats meaningful and important to them then I think thats exactly what they should do.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We wrote our own vows, and the entire ceremony, with some help from our officiant. We didn’t want to use any traditional wording because most traditional ceremonies are religious and we’re not. We wanted a ceremony that really reflected us and our relationship. The process of writing it was so special too, because we took a lot of time to reflect on why we love each other, what we both brought to the marriage, and what marriage means to us.

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We wrote our own vows and the entire ceremony.

    It wasn’t too hard because so many bees posted their wedding scripts and you can find a lot online too. We just borrow and modified those that applied to us.

    Because the ceremony reflected who we are, even though it was short (~10min), it was very meaningful.

    We are very glad we did it this way since we are not religious. I highly recommend other bees to create their own ceremony.

     

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I really want to do it, and I think my Fiance is cool with it too, but honestly I don’t know where to start.  I have a hard time getting things started.

    Did you read them to each other or was it a surprise?

    Post # 8
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m working on them right now, I have a lot of thoughts written down, trying to make a cohesive whole while trying to include everything important. It’s tough, that’s why I keep putting it off.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Future Mrs K:  Aw.. thank you.. Yeah I am going to mention it to my Fiance.  I just think it’s the sweetest thing to do and much more meaningful than repeating what someone is telling me to say. 

    We are meeting with the pastor Monday evening, and I’ll run it by him to make sure it’s ok. I’m sure it will be. Smile

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ladies, I really want to write my own but my memory is awful! Did you memorize your vows or did you read off of a card?

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’ve always seen shows where they read them.  Otherwise I couldn’t even consider it as well!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    At first I had no desire to and we chose to do traditional vows but now I *sort of* want to but we are undecided still.  Probablyl will keep it traditional because I think if we write our own I will just be bawling that much more than I already am – anytime I think or see anything wedding related I start crying – I don’t know what my deal is but I am so emotional since getting engaged. Trying to reduce the crying in any way I can on the wedding day lol – I don’t need a bunch of jacked up pictures of my ugly cry.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Fiance wanna write his vows so I have to too….

    I have stage fright so I am sure I won’t be able to memorize.  My plan is to have the card ready for the officiant so my Fiance can’t read them in advance.  In case we screw up he can give us the card lol

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    UGH! I want to but Fiance is a bit of a crier and doesn’t think he’d be able to keep it together if we did. But I really want to so I’m a little bummed. But maybe we’ll manage to avoid crying that way. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My Papa is a Reverend, so we are going the traditional route because that’s special and meaningful in and of itself to have him be the one to write the ceremony and recite our vows after. It certainly means just as much to us as it means to someone else who might be writing them…no matter what course you take, vows should be a big deal!

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