(Closed) Whose comfort is more important?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Well, I would  think that these people are comming to see YOU, and spending money on YOU and YOU are putting this party on for them to celebrate YOU…..it might be nice to throw them a bone or two.

I personally am of the opinion that while i want my guests to be comfortable, I want them to be dressed nice and no matter how much my cousin whines, he is NOT wearing flip flops and shorts  to the ceremony.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Making your guests comfortable is more important, IMO. Yes, your wedding day is about you but your wedding is a party that you are throwing for your guests to celebrate your marriage with you. Hence, your wedding is FOR them, it’s just about you.

There is a middle ground though. You can have what you want and still make sure people are comfortable and having a good time. It takes the same skill that marriage does… compromise.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@zippylef: I really like the way you described it as being for the guests, but about the couple.

That is how I feel, also. If it was just about us, we wouldn’t spend thousands of dollars to put on big dinner and dance party for our friends, we would probably elope. But because we want to celebrate with our friends and we want them to enjoy the celebration, we made our decisions with our guests in mind.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Ember78: Defintely. I understood that you were asking out of curiosity. It certainly does make you wonder what the heck goes through people’s heads sometimes.

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