Post # 1
I am purchasing some little wooden hearts to tie around my candles. But I am not sure whose initial goes first. Is it the bride or the groom?? I know it is kind of silly but if I put his initial first, than it would would read S&M. And well…..I would never get past the “sexual affilitaion” those initals have. Is it just me?? Am I being ridiculous about this? Does it really matter?
Post # 3
I don’t think it really matters, but I could be wrong. I, personally, usually put the groom’s name or initial first. In your case, I would definitely do your initial first.
Post # 4
@thumpurr: I’m sure there is etiquette for this I just don’t know what it is. I would just go with whatever sounds right in my head. I always put his name first just because it sounds better that way.
Post # 5
@thumpurr: Depends on who you talk to. For most things wedding related it’s the bride’s initial, last initial, and the groom’s. FI’s aunt explained it to me that typically when things were monogrammed they came from the bride’s family and into the new home so the bride’s initial was first since it was part of her dowry. For yours I don’t think it really matters just make sure it matches any other monograms you have.
Edit: I’m tired, I thought it was for a monogram haha! Typically the bride’s goes first (invitations, save the dates etc) but, again, if you do it this way just make sure it matches everywhere else so if you do use monograms and end up putting his name first you may have to switch it to match.
Post # 6
That’s ok, if groom goes first, our initals will be BJ…
So I will be going first on all the initials unless the W will be inserted between them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
Unsur. But I just think of how invitations and programs are prepared…brides name first. Its your preference and it’s a wedding…only those with weird thinking would refer to your initials as sexual. I have purchased wooden letters to place on either the cake or the sign in table and it will read S & E, the S is my initial, while E is his.
Post # 8
From what I’ve heard –
For all wedding stuff the bride goes first.
After the wedding the husband’s initial goes first.
Post # 9
We went with what flowed better.
When people say our names together it sounds better when Mr. Dahling’s name goes first, and my name second.
Post # 10
LOL!! I don’t mean to laugh, but that is WAY worse than our initials!!
Thanks for all of the input, mine will definitely go first. Even though it sound better when his name is first. It is silly I know….glad to know that the bride’s name goes first. LOL!!
Post # 11
This is my understanding also.
Post # 12
Socially, the bride’s name or initial is first, legally the man’s name is first.