(Closed) Whose initial goes first?? Bride or Groom??

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

I don’t think it really matters, but I could be wrong. I, personally, usually put the groom’s name or initial first. In your case, I would definitely do your initial first.

Post # 4
3370 posts
Sugar bee

@thumpurr:  I’m sure there is etiquette for this I just don’t know what it is. I would just go with whatever sounds right in my head. I always put his name first just because it sounds better that way.

Post # 5
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@thumpurr:  Depends on who you talk to. For most things wedding related it’s the bride’s initial, last initial, and the groom’s. FI’s aunt explained it to me that typically when things were monogrammed they came from the bride’s family and into the new home so the bride’s initial was first since it was part of her dowry. For yours I don’t think it really matters just make sure it matches any other monograms you have.

Edit: I’m tired, I thought it was for a monogram haha! Typically the bride’s goes first (invitations, save the dates etc) but, again, if you do it this way just make sure it matches everywhere else so if you do use monograms and end up putting his name first you may have to switch it to match.

Post # 6
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That’s ok, if groom goes first, our initals will be BJ…

So I will be going first on all the initials unless the W will be inserted between them.

Post # 7
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

Unsur. But I just think of how invitations and programs are prepared…brides name first. Its your preference and it’s a wedding…only those with weird thinking would refer to your initials as sexual. I have purchased wooden letters to place on either the cake or the sign in table and it will read S & E, the S is my initial, while E is his.

Post # 8
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

From what I’ve heard – 

For all wedding stuff the bride goes first.

After the wedding the husband’s initial goes first. 


Post # 9
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We went with what flowed better. 

When people say our names together it sounds better when Mr. Dahling’s name goes first, and my name second. 


Post # 11
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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@AlwaysSunny:  This is my understanding also.

Post # 12
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Socially, the bride’s name or initial is first, legally the man’s name is first.

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