(Closed) Whose last name does the baby get?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My son has my last name.  I chose that because if things didn’t work out, I knew I would be the one registering him for school, taking him to Dr. appointments, etc.  But I did tell him that if things had worked out and we ended up getting married that both of us would change our names to match his.  Needless to say we didn’t work out.  He’s married, now getting divorced.  The marriage lasted less than 2 years and he’s trying to use the divorce as his reasoning for not seeing his son.  He wins the father of the year award, right along with that guy from Virginia who left his 7 year old in the house alone with 19 snakes.

Post # 5
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Neva: This MIGHT vary state-to-state, but I know that in VA if you’re married, the child automatically gets the father’s last name.  Whether you’re together or not.  (aka married but seperated.)

If you are NOT married, the father HAS to be there to sign the papers giving the child his last name and stating he is the father.

Also, the moment daddy puts his name on the birth certificate, the child gets daddy’s last name.


As long as the father’s name is on the birth certificate, the name doesn’t get changed unless you go through legally changing the name.  I’m not sure what the process is, but I do know it involves A LOT of paperwork.  

Post # 6
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

I think it depends on if the father is around and in the child’s life and if he’s willing to sign the birth certificate. It seems when they take off is when the child is given the mother’s name. (talking about single women)

I was a single Mom and my daughter was given my husband’s last name once we were married and he adopted her. Her bio Dad never saw her or was involved in any way.

Post # 7
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My husband and I were not yet married when we had our kids but he signed the birth certificates and they both have his last name. He is on his son’s birth certificate but his son has his mom’s last name. My nephew has my maiden name (sister’s last name) and his dad is on his birth certificate too. You can name your kid anything you want so I would assume that to change just the last name, all you’d have to do is go file the paperwork at the courthouse and go from there.

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