Post # 1
I’m finishing up the last of our thank you notes and have noticed (and begun to feel self-conscious about, lol) that I put my name first, then DH’s, on the inside of the card as well as the return address. His is before mine in the alphabet, but I guess since I’m writing them out, mine should go first. Ha! I asked him, and he doesn’t care whose goes first.
So, what do you normally do?
Post # 3
If I’m writing something form both of us, I put my name first – because I’m writing the note. I did put his name first on our photo Christmas card.
Post # 4
We’re not married yet but when we are, his name will go first for everything. Thats just how married couples around here do it. Since we’re only engaged right now, depending on who the card/gift is being sent to, determines whos name goes first. For example:
- Card/gift is to a member of my family or my friends: My name goes first
- Card/gift is to a member of his family or his friends: His name goes first
- Card/gift is to a mutual friend: His name goes first
- Pre-printed holiday cards: His name goes first
Post # 5
@UpstateCait: I write in a similar way except that mine goes first on a card to a mutual friend (and we have never done pre-printed cards).
Post # 6
When Fiance and I were first starting to be addressed as a couple, I was living with with his family, so generally we’d hear things like, “What are (his name) and (my name)’s plans?” etc. Naturally his family will say his name first. So it just kind of stuck that way. Fine by me. =]
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
When I wrote my correspondence before the wedding, I always thought that the bride’s name should go first, so that is how I wrote it, regardless of who it was addressed to.
I thought it was supposed to be reversed after marriage, but the etiquette lady at the place I ordered my invitations says that the man’s name should go second, because he is keeping his original name intact. ie., Mary and David Smith.
Post # 8
When writing our names, I write his first, but when signing (like on thank you notes), I sign mine first.
We also got into an “argument” the other day about whose name people naturally say first – I think his, and he thinks mine!
Post # 9
I always sign my name first out of force of habit. My husband always signs his first. When we were going through the cards from our wedding, I wondered whose name people put first more often. Like, did people who know me better put my name first, and vice versa? I don’t remember the results of our experiment, but neither one of us really cares whose name comes first.
Post # 10
I usually write my name first, but that’s usually because any correspondence that is done through the mail is usually done through my friends and family. This year, we only sent two Christmas cards to friends/family of his. On the card for the mutual friend, I signed my name first. On the card for a close family friend of his (that was also thanking them for an engagement gift they sent through his parents), I put his name first.
I have no clue how we will handle thank you notes when we get married! I will cross that bridge when I get there!
Post # 11
I WAS putting is name first and then my Mother-In-Law told me it is more “proper” to put the woman’s name first. This confused me as when one uses titles, it’s Mr. & Mrs. right?
Post # 12
We’re both very traditional and old fashioned so his name always goes first. We do the sam thing when addressing cards to couples too. I guess it’s the old, “the man’s the head of the household so they should be first” type thing.
Post # 13
It depends on who I am writing it for and whether or not I want to see Kristen Shef toegther. If I do then it is his name first! lol
Post # 14
I generally do his name first, but come to think of it on all our wedding correspondence, mine was first.
Post # 15
I’ve always gone alphabetically- his name starts with “A” so he’s always been first (plus, I kept my maiden name so there’s never [name] and [name]. It’s [first last]/[First Last]
Post # 16
Generally when signing xmas cards or the like (anything from the family etc) I write his name first, then our sons, then mine — regardless of who the card is going to (his family, or ours, doesn’t really matter).
Now, this is more of a silly neurosis than a traditional thing (for me), I just feel ..out of place signing my name first if I am signing for everyone, I feel like it would be me going “yay me! look at me signing up a card! you know I was the one who really signed this, right? cant you tell because I put MY name first!” hahah but I am admittedly quite a spaz, so yeah, absolutely nothing wrong with signing your name first if you are the signer, but I am just weird.