(Closed) Whose name goes first?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: On your invitations, save the dates, favours, napkins,etc. Whose name is going first
    Mine then His..There was never another option : (27 votes)
    69 %
    His then mine...The head takin the head-name : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Hmmmm.....Never thought about it. : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Mz Izzie: I believe it’s ladies first until after the wedding. Don’t know where/why that comes from, but I’ve seen it often, and that’s how we refer to people around here when speaking as well. Jane Doe and John Smith, and then John and Jane Smith after the big day. May totally be regional? I’m curious to see what other bees say.

    Invitation wise for YOU guys, I think it’s traditional that whoever is hosting is listed first. So ‘MOB & FOB invite you to the marriage of B to G, son of MOG & FOG.’ However, it really just depends on how formal your wedding is, who’s doing the hosting/inviting, and what keeps the family peace πŸ˜‰ We went with “NDBee and Mr.ND, along with their parents, MOB and MOG & FOG…’

    Post # 5
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Yeah, we just ordered our thank-you notes and they say our first and last names, like Jane and John Smith. I asked the woman who printed them who owns an invitation shop about my name coming first and she said in 90% of the cases, that is what is done. 

    On our invitation it said parents invite (or whatever formal wording we used) to the wedding of: Jane and John. I’ve usually seen the woman’s name go first. 

    I find it funny that his mom was pissed about the bride’s name being first. What a silly thing to be pissed about. 

    ETA: We totally just used Jane and John Smith at the same time coincidentally haha

    Post # 6
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    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    The rule is: Ladies first for unmarried couples. For married couples, the husband’s name comes before the wife’s. This applies to the order of apearance for your names aswell as your parents’ & guests.

    Post # 8
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @Mz Izzie:  I’d never heard of the rule before wedding/after wedding but it makes sense since usually a couple would be referred to as Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith which would obviously be AFTER the wedding! Now that comes together for me. 

    Are you worried she’ll make a big deal about your name coming first? :-/

    Post # 10
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @Mz Izzie:  Oh ok, sorry to hear that sad news πŸ™ Good luck with all your wedding planning!

    Post # 11
    Member
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Whe I worked for a wedding vendor they always recommended the women first to keep the Mans name together

    ie…

    Jane and John smith

    Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

     I think in the wedding industry this is just the normjust like with invitations the womens name goes first they just carry it through to everything else. Just as experience I know everythig we ever engraved the women came first.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    oops. on our STD, its HisName & MyName… lol I think it just sounds better that way.

    On the wedding invites I’ll probably go first. Oh well πŸ˜‰ not going to let it bother me.

    Post # 13
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    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Oh how interesting! I always thought the guy’s name went first… I guess I will have to look into it more before I send them out πŸ™‚

     

    EDIT: I just looked and that’s a total lie, I actually put my name first on our tentative invitations and Save-The-Date Cards haha! Glad I did it ‘right’

    Post # 14
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    2067 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    On invites… FOB and MOB invite you to the wedding of bride and groom…. Not sure on Save-The-Date Cards… But now, I always sign things from Darling Husband and I πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
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    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    On EVERYTHING except the actual invite, my name is first. STD, website, everything!

    On the actual invite, his is first, because his parents are helping fund the wedding and mine aren’t. So his parents’ names are above my parents’ names, which means his name come before mine.

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