Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
So, I used Wedding Chick’s free invite wedding template; saved two favourite templates and emailed it to Mr. P late last night. I did this mostly to see if he liked the feel/colours/wording.
Here’s one of them, but both invites pretty much have similar colours & text:
I couldn’t help chuckling for what seemed to be two minutes when Mr. P suggested that HIS name should come first.
“What?! What are you laughing about?”
I smiled, “Okay, that’s odd. Normally, it’s the bride who is married to the groom. I will be changing my name to yours; I should come first!”
“No, it should be M____ & C_____”
I laughed while replying, “No, it’s the other way round: C_____ & M______. Your way makes it sounds like you are getting married to me; ladies have always come before gentlemen. Also, (more laughing) I put it in an alphabetical order. C comes before P!” (I win? Nope, haha!)
It’s almost like deciding which comes first: the chicken or the egg! Let’s hear how other brides & grooms are sorting the order of their names. 🙂 (Feel free to post a rough template of your invite too)
Post # 3
@Cynderbug: traditionally his name should come first
Post # 4
@Cynderbug: You are right! but my Fiance did the same thing! I actually like the way our names sound better with his first so most of out stuff is written that way (including the monogram that will be on the pocket of our invites) but for the actual invite we are going bride & groom
Post # 5
Your name before the wedding (on the invites) comes first, after the wedding (like for reception stuff like initials) then his comes first.
Post # 7
@babypearls: Interesting. I’ve not seen it done that wayunless the grooms =arents are the sole hosts and I’m pretty old. Traditional wording was to the effect of: Mr & Mrs Brides Parents request the honor or your presence at the marriage of their daughter Little Girl to Little Boy Blue,
If the grooms parents are hosting, then the invitation usually lists the groom first, but, otherwise, I’ve only seen bride’s name first
Post # 8
@babypearls: this only applies after they are married. before marriage, the woman’s name comes first.
Post # 9
Interesting topic. As @mypinkshoes: says, my Fiance and I always say/write my name first on stuff (mostly love doodles on my notebooks lol) but, he told me that on the wedding stuff he feels tha man’s name should come first because it represents the idea that he is protecting her by going first. Never thought of it that way really and it doesn’t bother me, I just got so used to the sound of Ana & Uriel that hearing/reading Uriel & Ana will be kind of weird, but fine by me really.
Post # 10
Bride comes first. If the groom argues with this, re-evaluate. 😛
Post # 11
We just did our save the dates – he wanted to be first too!
I went with it because of our wedding website. My name ends in an a. If the website had my name first, there would be two As next to each other (Mynameandhisname.com) which could be confusing. I wanted to stay consistent so I put his name first on the save the date as well, even though it should be my name first.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
@Duncan: Thank you! Ha, ha! It’s nice hearing this from a Canadian man! 🙂
I guess I ought to see if my fiance would compromise. Have my name in English first for the English portion of the invite. His name would traditionally come first in Chinese invitation cards anyway.
When you say hosting, does it mean paying for the event?
If that’s the case, my name would come first, lol!
Post # 13
According to http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/228634/wedding-invitation-wording/@center/272440/wedding-etiquette-adviser#314040 If the couple are hosting (paying for bulk of wedding) then its usually womans name first. But my general rule of thumb is whatever works best for the couple.
Post # 14
@mypinkshoes: hmmm that’s how my family has always done it. Good to know idk if its a separate cultural thing then
Post # 15
On the invitation, the bride’s name comes first….unless the groom’s parents are paying/hosting the wedding