(Closed) Whose name should come first on the wedding invite?!

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Whose name comes first on your invitation card?

    Bride before the groom

    Groom before the bride

    We are still deciding

  • Post # 4
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Cynderbug:  You are right!  but my Fiance did the same thing! I actually like the way our names sound better with his first so most of out stuff is written that way (including the monogram that will be on the pocket of our invites) but for the actual invite we are going bride & groom

    Post # 5
    7086 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Your name before the wedding (on the invites) comes first, after the wedding (like for reception stuff like initials) then his comes first. 

    Post # 6
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013


    Post # 7
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    @babypearls:  Interesting. I’ve not seen it done that wayunless the grooms =arents are the sole hosts and I’m pretty old. Traditional wording was to the effect of: Mr & Mrs Brides Parents request the honor or your presence at the marriage of their daughter Little Girl to Little Boy Blue,


    If the grooms parents are hosting, then the invitation usually lists the groom first, but, otherwise, I’ve only seen bride’s name first

    Post # 8
    7960 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @babypearls:  this only applies after they are married.  before marriage, the woman’s name comes first.

    Post # 9
    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Interesting topic. As  @mypinkshoes:  says, my Fiance and I always say/write my name first on stuff (mostly love doodles on my notebooks lol) but, he told me that on the wedding stuff he feels tha man’s name should come first because it represents the idea that he is protecting her by going first. Never thought of it that way really and it doesn’t bother me, I just got so used to the sound of Ana & Uriel that hearing/reading Uriel & Ana will be kind of weird, but fine by me really.

    Post # 10
    2274 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Bride comes first.  If the groom argues with this, re-evaluate. 😛

    Post # 11
    386 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We just did our save the dates – he wanted to be first too!

    I went with it because of our wedding website. My name ends in an a. If the website had my name first, there would be two As next to each other (Mynameandhisname.com) which could be confusing. I wanted to stay consistent so I put his name first on the save the date as well, even though it should be my name first.

    Post # 14
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee

    @mypinkshoes: hmmm that’s how my family has always done it. Good to know idk if its a separate cultural thing then

    Post # 15
    4539 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    On the invitation, the bride’s name comes first….unless the groom’s parents are paying/hosting the wedding

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