whose responsibility is it to get the bride to the bachelorette?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My Bachelorette party took place downtown. The group met early to set up and whatever and I had to meet them all ther later. I took transit to get to downtown but was dropped off at home by one of the girls. 

(I live in a neighboring city than the group. Since they met early I had to find my own way. They suggested the train and even provided the stop and time)

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The bride is a grown adult, surely she can get herself to her party?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

I don’t think it’s anyone’s responsibility to get her there. At least someone should tell her where to go and that’s it. From there it can be determined if people want to go together. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You can tell her to meet you there. She should be able to make her own arrangements, but it would be nice if you gave her suggestions for which public transport to take.

However, if you want to do the whole surprise thing, then I would just arrange for the BM (or willing guest) that’s closest to her to bring her to the location. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Unless the bride is incapable of driving, I’d say she is responsible for her own transportation.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

For the last one I went to we took care of everything for the bride. I was totally cool with that. Rented a limo, professional photographer and got the bride hammered all on our dime. It was only about $50 each.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

The bride should get herself there as a grown woman. If her bridesmaids want to arrange her transportation then that’s sweet of them but she should assume she has to find her own way.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

She’s a grown (I assume) woman. It’s her own responsibility to get herself there.

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Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

It really depends on what’s being planned. There isn’t any set rule for this. 

From what I’ve seen, the bride and bridesmaids tend to get to their destination together, because a limo or party bus is a highlight of the celebration. I’ve also seen brides get to the party on their own or with a couple other ladies in her car or one of theirs. 

Again, it all depends on what’s being planned. Nobody is automatically responsible for her transportation.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it’s fine for her to get herself there, but I think you should arrange transportation for her to get home. If she’s going to be drinking (possibly a lot), you shouldn’t expect her to hop on public transit back home by herself. 

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