(Closed) Whose Responsibility?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t understand.  Your sister-in-law was nice enough to purchase a suit for your son to wear to her wedding, you fiance didn’t bother to get it altered and you think this is her fault?  What part is she at fault for?

The only person in this situation that is going to get the short end of the stick is YOUR son who will probably have to wear a suit that doesn’t fit him and look a little silly. 

Post # 6
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1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@armychica06:  Wouldn’t it be cheaper and less wasteful to just fix the suit that you already have?

Post # 7
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think there are two seperate and mutually exclusive situations going on here

1) your strained relationship with her

2) the suit does fit

Therefore I think despite your poor relationship with Future Sister-In-Law you should get the suit fitted. If you dont want to, you need to be firm with your fiance about getting it done since he was initially responsible.

 

Post # 8
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@louisianablue:  I agree with you. She got him a suit, why don’t you handle getting it tailored? If you really want to bury the hatchet take care of the suit and move on.

Post # 10
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998 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I get your reasoning to not want to get it altered due to your poor relationship……but I kind of think you should just suck it up and get it altered. IMO it would make a bad situation worse if he wore a different suit than what she bought. Just take the high road here.

Post # 12
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9631 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

this issue is between you and your Fiance, not your Future Sister-In-Law. She was nice enough to buy a suit for your son, it is up to you two to get it fitted. Yes your Fiance should have done it by now, and definitely talk to him, but if he doesn’t you should. It is not your FSIL’s responsibility, he is your son, not hers, and she was nice enough to buy the suit in the first place. She has enough going on right now

Post # 13
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8360 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It is your FI’s responsibility to get the suit altered. If it is not done then he is at fault and I guess since you two are in a relationship it becomes your fault as well.

Tell your Fiance to get his butt into gear and get the suit tailored or else suck it up and do it yourself. This is in no way your FSIl’s issue- but it will become her issue if the promised tailoring isn’t completed. Do you really want your family (you and FI) to be responsible for not fulfilling the promises to the bride and groom on their wedding day? How would you feel if this was your wedding? And how would you feel if someone switched the attire on a member of your bridal party?

This isn’t about your relationship with the FSIL- this is about you being stubborn due to your relationship with your Future Sister-In-Law. The only person that will lose here is your son- because he will become a focal point of the b*tching/agruing and he will be in a too big suit or not in the appropriate attire.

 

Post # 14
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@louisianablue:  +1.

I have to be honest,  it sounds like you aren’t getting it tailored and haven’t reminded you Fiance because you don’t really want your son to be in the wedding.  If that is the case then you should’ve backed out already.   At this point you have commited your son to being in the wedding.  Don’t stoop to her level.  Be the bigger person.

Post # 15
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2214 posts
Buzzing bee

If you know that your Fiance forgot to get the suit altered then why don’t you remind him?  Seems like you’re not getting it altered just to spite her or something.

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