(Closed) Whose return address to use?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we used our apartment address, with both names on the label.  my parents live an hour away and i love getting to check the mail every day and seeing those little enveloped in there! =D

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think these days it’s perfectly fine to put down your own address, especially if you’re already living together. That way the RSVPs, other congratulatory cards, and the odd off-registry present will arrive at the same destination.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Traditionally, the RSVPs are supposed to go to the hosts of the wedding, usually the bride’s parents. If your parents and his parents are hosting equally, you may want to check with them and see if they’d like their side’s responses to come to them.  They may not care at all, but some people , especially older generations, will see the RSVP address as acknowledgement of hosting.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are also putting our own address on the RSVP (we are paying for the wedding ourselves).  My Father-In-Law actually prefer it that way, and my parents are a little disorganized and I have a feeling that a few might go missing if they went to their house!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we put our address on the return, since we are the ones keeping track of the guest list, but I just put the address, no name, so my old fashioned relatives don’t get their panties in a wad 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We put my parents address since the invite said Mr and Mrs. Junes parents etc. But my parents live less than 10 min away.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We used our own address for precisely the reason you said. We self addressed it to the “Soon-to-be-Last Names” to make it cute 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My parents are paying for the wedding, but we are collecting the RSVPs.  It’s exciting but also a pain, and I wouldn’t want to burden my parents with it.  I actually didn’t even ask them!  Of course, their names are at the top of the invitation, so I think everyone knows they’re hosting.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My parents and his parents are paying for it, but we’re the ones planning and coordinating everything, so we’ll be getting the RSVPs back. It would make zero sense to send them to my parents because they aren’t doing anything for the wedding except footing the bill (and providing opinion here and there…).

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I ordered free labels off of Vista print with our address but had the name on the label read “HisLastName and MyMaidenName Wedding” Plus I was able to order them so that they matched our colors.

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