(Closed) Whose your bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think you have to include FI’s sisters in your bridal party. Its your decision and particuarly if you think she wouldn’t even want to be a bridesmaid then don’t include her. I think bridesmaids should be the people who are your best friends, know you the best and have always supported your relationship with Fiance. Family members don’t always fit this bill and therefore don’t have to be included just because they are family.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Psssht. His sister HATES me. No way will she be part of the bridal party.

My bridesmaids are-my sister and three of my best friends. I’ve known them all since I was 12 or younger.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I have not had a similar situation. I have one younger sister and Fiance has an older brother, so they will each be on our respective sides :-).

  I have had three friends get married recently who have siblings of the opposite sex. Two of them had their brother stand on the groom’s side. In one case, the groom was really close with the brother, and in the second case, the groom was so laid back, it worked out well (plus, it helped to even out numbers). In the third case, this girl and her brother are super close. He was her “best guy” on her side, so she had no Maid/Matron of Honor. There was a girl on her husband’s side, so he escorted her down the aisle.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How does he feel about his sis not being in the wedding? Do you not want her to be in it? I would ask, you never know maybe she wants to. Or if she wants to stand with her brother, why not let her do that?

My Fi wanted a small wedding party and said his sis wouldnt mind not being in it but it just didnt feel right to me since they are so close. plus i really like her so im going to ask her to be my bm.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Non-traditional idea: I have heard of girls being on the Groom’s side and guys being on the Bride’s side. If it  that’s big of a deal could she be his Best Lady or Groomswoman?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not really close to his sister, but I asked her anyways. I didn’t really want to and she didn’t seem too enthused at first, but we’ve actually gotten closer since then and I’m glad that I asked. 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it would be best to ask your Fiance what he thinks.  If he doesn’t care if she is in it, then maybe consider giving her a different role – such as guest book attendant, read during ceremony, etc.

I think it would be appreciated by the family (of course, I don’t know them) if you included her.

My bridesmaids were my 2 sisters, 2 friends, and his sister.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think there should be any obligation to ask his sister, especially if you think it’s not her thing. My fiance’s cousin got married a few years ago and his sister wasn’t part of the bridal party. I agree with maybe having her do a reading or something, to include her.

I asked my fiance’s sister, because she’s a sweetie and we get along well.

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