(Closed) "Why 30 is not the new 20"….thoughts? (TED Talk)

posted 7 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@bmo88:  I feel like the speaker is spreading a rhetoric that I have never found to be true in my life.  Who are all these 20 somethings who aren’t working hard to launch their life?  Maybe I just hang out with a lot of over achievers or something, but this has not been my experience.  (For reference, I’m 29.)


Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I watched that Talk a few months ago and really enjoyed it. I think some people who haven’t watched it are getting the wrong idea. She’s not saying that people need to hit predetermined milestones faster, she’s saying that we shouldn’t waste time in getting where we each want to go. 

Post # 34
4369 posts
Honey bee

I watched the beginning of the video some time ago and quit half way because it annoyed me. 

Post # 35
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Honey bee

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@joya_aspera:  I agree with you. To say that you shouldn’t “waste time” is to say that someone who doesn’t have the very specific, tangible life goals in their 20’s is somehow leading a less worthy life than someone else who is going after what they believe they want. It’s not my place to judge someone else’s worthiness in their life, and I believe that the beauty is in the journey, not the goal. Who is to say that the woman dating a man she has no intention of marrying isn’t getting something out of the relationship that will better her life in the long run. I think we focus in succeeding so much that we discount the value of failing or the process of discovering what you want out of life. Not all of us want have life goals of financial success or raising families. Personally, I find the process of questioning and discovering one of the most important things in life. If I die tomorrow, I will have been happy knowing I pursued self discovery and the people i made connections with. I will not give a damn about how much money I made or where I am in my career path. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@bmo88:  This was tough for me to listen to. I am a 26 year old female with no kids, no husband and no college degree. I am set to graduate at the LATE age of 27 (this fall) then I will attend grad school for 2 years and barely skim by, by the time I am 30 (29 if we want to be literal). What took me so long? Life. I graduated high school and went straight to college, but my family depended on me in emotional and financial ways that I had no idea how to handle. I stopped going to school and tried to find ways to survive as quckily as I could. I worked 2-3 jobs, bought a car and then stood still for 2-3 years. It wasn’t fun, I cried all of the time and just wanted to find a way out of being 20-something with no purpose. I decided to look into my career choices and that is when I realized that I wanted to work with kids. I became a nanny and started school again to become a school psychologist. I am on track to graduate with a 3.8 gpa (thank goodness I saved those easy classes for the end :), I have been with my sweet SO for almost 3 years now, we both want to be married by next year. So many things will be happening at once and in my late 20’s…but at least they will be things that I know I want, things that I had time to sit down and think about. I can honestly say though, that my early 20’s werent a “throw away” they were hard, emotionally challenging and I learned SO much in that period of time. The 2nd half is just going to be way more productive I guess.  I agree with her that 30 is not the new 20…but sometimes things take time! Amazing video!


Post # 37
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bmo88:  I agree with most of the thing she says

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