(Closed) Why a Destination Wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

ya that is a bit weird.  i am all about having the best reception i can afford at my destination wedding.  we are having a legal ceremony on the beach, followed by a dinner for 2 hours for everyone (private), then a 3 hour bonfire party on the beach.  Also, i made sure to arrive on the same day as most of the guests and rather than staying a full week like most people, i am staying 6 nights and then having a 4 night honeymoon somewhere else. i think that still gives me a good amount of time to spend with my guests.   i would never dream of doing it the way you described.  

they seem to want the Destination Wedding experience and in most wedding packages, the bride and groom get a private dinner for two. i have that in my package, but i am not using it.  or maybe we will use it a different night, but the wedding day is to celebrate with everyone.   

maybe they figure that those who attend are going for their own vacation at the same time.  if i were you, that would be the only motivation i had.

 

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree that that’s a bit odd and, I’ll say it, selfish. They want people to come to their ceremony and then leave? I mean that’s a lot of money. I guess what PurpleUnicorn said makes the only bit of sense – you get a vacation out of it. But I prefer to plan and choose my own vacations. :/ Meh.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@SapphireSun: I totally don’t get where your H is coming from. Seriously, he doesn’t see it?? I mean what does he expect to get out of this experience…. Eh. I’m sorry. Maybe it can at least be turned into a nice vacation for you guys, but really I’d be kind of miffed too.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is not a typical destination wedding.  Most have entertainment (reception for their guests)  They should just have a private wedding for just them.  It is rude of them to ask you to go.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SapphireSun:

Oh my it gets worse.  You should send her a wedding ettiqette book or something.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@SapphireSun: Seriously? Wtf. Sounds like she just wants to spend loads of money, and have money spent on her. :/ Too bad it’s family! Otherwise that would be a big, fat “Hell no.” My mom would’ve slapped me if I’d had an idea like that and been like “Fine, go by yourself.”

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

@SapphireSun  oh wow.  is she even doing welcome bags i wonder?  i spent too much money on my welcome bags. but i couldnt help it. i always kept thinking “well they are spending over a $1000 to be there for my wedding”  so i kept justifying spending more money on stuff for them!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Definitely seems odd. I chose a Destination Wedding because I thought, “If we’re going to spend all that $$ on a wedding, I don’t want it to end after four or five hours – I want it to last all weekend long!” LOL So yes, for me, it was about maximizing the time and the fun of having all of our favorite people gathered together in one place. We even had the ceremony/formal reception on Friday night so we could relax and spend time with our guests all day Saturday as well as Sunday morning.

At this point, it’s probably not worth trying to convince your husband of anything; it will only make you look bad and it won’t change the fact that you pretty much have to go since it’s his sister. I would just accept it, and make the best of it by planning it as if it were your own private vacation with a brief interruption to attend her ceremony.

@dynamic_duo: I’m with you on the Out of Town bags… I went a little crazy myself. Just kept finding cute, irresistible things to include – to the point that the bags weren’t big enough in the end! haha

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

i am getting married in Turkey,  just me and my partner, our kids from previous marriages,  and there partners…..8 in total,  and considering how much it would have cost us in the UK….we are paying for everyones flight and all-inclusive accomadation to come with us,  because we know they wouldnt be able to afford to come if we didnt do that. i am not rich by any stretch of the imagination,  and i am not suggesting that its wrong NOT to pay for your guests,  but we have decided to do that,  and STILL have saved a bunch of money by not marrying in UK.

If we had married in UK  we would have felt obliged to invite friends and family from all over the place,  costing a hell of a lot of money.  we will be going for 2 weeks,  and our kids…(adults)  will be going for a week.  if they want to extend it to 2 weeks then thats at their own cost.  but as they are all either just started work and out of Uni,  they dont have a lot of money,  so we booked them all inclusive too so that if they run out of cash…..they can still eat. i have also booked a few special days out together so that we can spend some fun time together, before and after the wedding day,  so they know they are appreciated. 

this is just the way we wanted to do it.  and our wedding in total has cost less than  £7,000,  for everything,  thats a honeymoon aswell! 

 

but the lady above,!   oh my!   thats so greedy.  i would just tell her i am not going …..end of.  if she wants all those people to attend her wedding,  then at the very least,  stay with them,  and show them you appreciate the time and money it cost them to attend YOUR perfect day. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

OP – why don’t you talk to your sister and ask her if (and why) she wants you there?  I agree what she is planning is not a typical Destination Wedding, but maybe she has her reasons??  (BTW – We are doing a Destination Wedding because 1/2 of the VIPs are from Chicago and 1/2 of the VIPs are from PA.  And we met in FL.  And we really like FL.  And FL is cheaper than VA.  I could go on, but those are the big ones!)

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That’s so strange. We are doing a destination wedding, but we have events every single day with our friends and family. It’s basically like a group vacation, and we are also doing welcome baskets, reception, etc…

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