Why am I a crazy person?!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

It is natural, especially if you have been dating for a while. Around 24 all of your friends start to get married too. You said yourself that you don’t feel quite ready yet. What does your timeline look like? 

Post # 3
Member
3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

cinnamonster :  because you’re not sure he really will marry you! You would get engaged right now but he will not… After all, being engaged does not mean you have to get married next week. Its the public commitment to get married in the future. You’re not crazy,  you’re right to have concern after 5 years and no ring. 

Post # 5
Member
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t really think uni years count in term of waiting. If you get together at 26 and are still waiting 5 years later it’s one thing but you’re still so young! Sounds like things are moving in the right direction so try relax. 

Real life post uni can be tough, jobs can take you in different ways geographically and keep you really busy, you have more money to figure out, less time. Give yourselves a bit of time to figure it all out 🙂 plus you’ll have more money to spend on the wedding!

Post # 6
Hostess
9047 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

cinnamonster :  I just wanted to say that you sound very level headed and mature. You know that uni is not real life and you know that you need to learn to adjust to real life on your own and  also together. It sounds like you are approaching this in a sensible way, you know you want to marry each other, you know it wil happen but waiting is a killer and can drive the most sane, mature, level headed woman a bit loopy. My SO and I browsed rings on Friday but it doesn’t feel real because part of me feels like it is too good to be true. Our minds can play tricks.

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