(Closed) Why am I being such a bad girlfriend :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Why did you give him an ultimatum to propose by the 30th?

Post # 4
Member
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@blueberries123:  Try to relax. You know it’s coming. It’s doesn’t take a lot of plannign to propose. Some guys do it within 5 minutes, others plan something big and some meet somewhere in the middle. Don’t feel down. Only 24 days left which really isn’t that long πŸ™‚

Post # 5
Member
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Also, do you REALLY want sense kicked into you? Cause, I’m really good at it. I do it for myself often.

I’m not being snarky here, You’re acting like a spoiled brat. Suck it up, you’re an adult entering into a life long comittment and in 20 years from now you might look back at this time as one of the best times in your life, but now it will be spoiled by your attitude if you don’t stop.

Make him a nice dinner and apologize for being a brat.

*hugs* Try to relax some. Go get your nails done, or maybe a pedicure. Go hang out with your girlfriends. Give your man some space to do what he needs to do. It’ll be okay.

Post # 7
Member
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HelleCat: I like your way of thinking! πŸ˜›

Post # 8
Member
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@blueberries123:  It’s hard and I understand your pain and frustration, but you need to force yourself to be quiet. Anytime you find an engagement rant coming on, LEAVE THE ROOM.

I don’t know your specific circumstances, but if you had to issue an ultimatum, he probably isn’t the happiest of campers right now. He might be feeling a bit freaked out.. about marriage in general as well as the logistics of a proposal. Maybe he does want to get married and you just gave him a little nudge.. fair enough.. but you just need to leave him be.

Why not try to turn this into a positive thing? Go shopping and buy a new outfit that you could wear when you first have your ring and everyone is flocking to you to see it. Something that says “I’m confident and beaming”. Exercise. As well as burning off steam, you want to look the best you can and get into good habits for your upcoming wedding. Do your nails or go get a manicure. Try and make this fun. Of course I understand your anxiety, but you’re only digging yourself a deeper hole by being bitchy to him. You need to distract yourself!

Post # 9
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If you can’t plan your wedding within a year, you’ll abandon the relationship completely? That sounds like a ton of pressure, and not an entirely great way to begin a journey to marriage. I’m pretty sure you’re not going to want to look back on the proposal and know you basically bullied him into it, right?

Post # 11
Member
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Don’t beat yourself up. I was even more terrible. It got so bad that after I knew he had the ring, we got into a huge fight and he ran upstairs, got the ring and put it on top of the refrigerator, saying “If you want it, there it is.” …Obviously I didn’t take it, and the next day he hid it again. About two weeks later he proposed, and now we’re happily married and planning our first anniversary trip.

Moral of the story… it’s best not to argue about your engagement. He loves you and will propose to you. He wants to marry you. Focus on that.

 

Post # 12
Member
1716 posts
Bumble bee

You seem kind of like me. I get into funks around this time of year will spiral myself into worse and worse funks if someone doesnt tell me to put my wonder woman panties back on.

SO has actually bought me wonder woman panties and now leaves them out on the bed if I’m being extra mopey butt. I swear those things have saved our relationship on some occassions.

The topic ‘Why am I being such a bad girlfriend :(’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors