Post # 1
Weight has always been a big issue in my family (pun intended!) and I’ve been up and down my whole life. I’ve been dieting since last year, and have successfully lost about 20 lbs and 1-2 pants size (depending on the brand!). Lately I seem to be “stuck” and even though I’m still dieting/exercizing, the weight loss has slowed quite a bit. Now that the wedding is only 4 months away I’m freaking out! I am definitely kicking the program into high gear again, but I know that no matter what I do, I’ll just never reach the size I wanted to be for my wedding.
Aside from feeling insecure, I am started to feel angry. A few weeks ago I went to get specialty undergarments for my dress, and my Future Mother-In-Law and Future aunt came with me. They got me into this corset and I felt way better about how I looked in my dress with it on. As I was smiling into the mirror, Future Aunt asks the sales woman “Do you have any boleros or shrugs?” I know my arms are a trouble area, but geez. I had to fight the urge to tell her to take a flying leap.
I’ve also had feelings of jealousy/anger when Future Mother-In-Law told me about a diet she started, and how she’s getting all these crazy expensive facials done for the wedding. I went out and ordered shoes for the bridesmaids because I am several inches short then them and I wanted to be sure they were wearing flats so I don’t look even more short and stubby in the pics. My fiance has been working out with me, and I don’t want him to lose any more weight so I don’t look like a giant next to him. I just feel sometimes that everyone is going to look so much better than I am.
Am I being a total bridezilla/control freak, or is it just the frustration of the situation? Anyone else feel this way? FYI, I am 5’2″ and currently pants size 16/18.
Ps. I haven’t said anything to anyone but man do I want to sometimes! I know I can’t control what other people are doing, but feeling this way is no fun.
Post # 3
You’re struggling with the ever-famous PLATEAU!!! Make sure you’re netting at least 1200 calories a day after exercise. Change up your exercise routine. Your muscles get “bored” doing the same thing every time. If you’ve been doing spin classes, try out a zumba class. If you’ve been walking or jogging, try interval training. Everyone plateaus at some point, and everyone gets frustrated about it. Hang in there, chin up lady 🙂
Post # 4
Family suc sometimes. Im really lucky that i get to join with a wonderful family, my family can however be alittle ‘flippant’ in other words they never ask how the wedding planning is going – the wedding is in october and ive had the wedding venue booiked for months and mum asked the other day where we are getting married and that was only because my aunt asked her apparently lol and iv also been abit crook and they never ask or remember that i have mri scans happening, i have another one in May and I fully expect them to completely forget. My fiances family is completely different and I feel very lucky for that. The reason im saying this is to show you that your not alone hun, just remember that you are marrying your fiance who hopefully is a wonderful person who loves you just as you are and you are going to have a home with him and the best thing you can do it just smile at that.
All this hoohaa over one day means nothinig really, try to love yourself and your body because your going to be in it for a long while yet and if you have someone being mean or arrogant you have the right to say ‘I love me and I love my body so stuff you’. And literally say that out loud next time someone (even if its an FIL) says anything like that. I would suggest though that when you get home you tell your fiance what happened and what you said and im sure he will be so proud of you for loving your body.
Also, i totally understand the shoes thing and dont think thats being bridezilla at all as you have a good reason for it, but on the other hand being unsupportive of your man because he is loosing more weight is kind of harsh – its just a man thing that that happens – we have boobies so its harder lol. Danelady gave some really good tips for you hun so give them a try.
Try to remember though that your beautiful, try to be healthy and what happens happens… the thing that will totally shine in your photos is not going to be your arms or your flat tummy – its going to be your smile.