(Closed) Why am I jealous of pregnant people?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Short answer: NOTHING

It is natural to miss that closeness with your baby. Yes you can hold them but its not the same as the closeness you once had. Just try focusing on all the new experiences you will be having with your baby for the first time.

When the time comes for another (if that is in your plans) you will have that feeling again. Yes you will probably be right back to where you were, all uncomfortable and whatnot, but I think the subconscious loves it despite the discomfort.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

You already want another one? 😛

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I don’t know about you, but lack of sleep for 4 months has made me totally forget how miserable i was during pregnancy, childbirth, and the first couple weeks of motherhood.

The other day I said something about how I would rather go through labor and delivery again than go to the dentist (I seriously hate the dentist) and my husband was like “ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME?!?!”

Apparently he remembers that process a bit better than I do.

I’m not nostalgic for pregnancy (except for the part where I was supposed to get fatter) but I’ve totally forgotten how hard it was to have a newborn who needed to be attached to my boob for 12 hours a day and I’m like “ooh, I want another one!”

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

When did you have your daughter? maybe its time for a 2nd baby? lol

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Because now you know how great the end result can be.  🙂  A friend who recently had her baby told me earlier this week, “I finally get why you’d want to do the whole pregnancy thing again.”  Babies have a way of changing your perspective, and as cliche as it sounds, the pains of pregnancy really are worth it in the end.

Not to mention that, despite all the complaints, pregnancy is kind of a special moment in your life.  The anticipation, the special little bonding moments with your baby, the positive attention, are all really fun.  And mommy-nesia kicks in pretty quickly after bith and you forget all those times you swore you’d never do this again, lol.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Haha, when we first brought home my daughter my husband was cute and in love and was so excited to have more.  But even though I knew it was cute I almost cried thinking oh my gosh, pregnancy again.  So I banned talk of #2 for awhile.  

I guess the ban worked because already I get weepy thinking of her little kicks in my belly and the little faces she used to make and all the things that she’s doing that are awesome but are making me realize how fast she’s growing up.  

Motherhood has made me a sap, freaking hormones.  

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My sister after she had her first said. I’m not going to have another for a couple years. Less than a year later, she was pregnant with my nephew, who is now 5 months old. Right after the birth she told me her husband was going to get snipped because they didn’t want any more. At lunch the other day she said, well maybe we’ll have a 3rd we’ll see. I laughed at her. I think it’s totally normal. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

@flamingred:  Re: thinking you just spent that time crying and complaining… I totally have this idea that I’ll be so much BETTER at being pregnant, giving birth, and being a new mom the next time around. I will exercise more, I will appreciate things more, I will journal about the experience, labor will surely be quicker and less painful, I will take more pictures when the baby is a newborn…. and I’m sure it’s all total BS since when we do this again we’ll probably have a toddler on our hands (and I hear they are time and energy consuming…), but I still have this idea that “ok, now I’ve been through it once, I will be able to appreciate and enjoy the experience next time!”

Oh well. I am enjoying my little delusional world here.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I also didn’t love being pregnant but knew I’d miss it. And now she’s a newborn keeping me up all night, giving me migraines from lack of sleep. And again, when she grows up, I’ll know I’ll miss this time with her too.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think it’s normal. I’m 36wks and starting to miss Baby Bear being in there and he/she isn’t even born! LOL I’m miserable- back hurts, swollen feet, no sleep, horribvle pelvic pain- but I miss him/her already. Strange, huh? LOL

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think maybe you feel sad/jealous because you are reading about people doing all the fun parts of pregnancy, like picking out names and shopping for baby clothes, etc. and not all the awkward, uncomfortable, painful parts. I feel the same way when I see the back to school section at Target and remember the fun parts of college – and the aching, soul crushing experience it really was.

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