Post # 1
I would like to think I am envious, but I just can’t help my feelings and have had to keep them supressed since finding out my FBIL’s g/f is newly expecting. Maybe it’s because he has always been his mothers favorite (seriously, we call him baby jesus), or because we have had very little interest or attention from my fiancee’s side of the family regardig our upcomming wedding…I don’t know. His mom jumped through the phone with excitment when she found out last night. I didn’t get even an ounce of that reaction when we told her were were engaged and she has not wanted to help wiht anything rlated to the wedding. There’s so many feelings swirling around inside of me today. On one hand, I am crazy excited to be an aunt for the first time, but on the other, I am jealous that what little attention we received will now be diverted to them. My FBIL even stated to us that he would wait to get engaged to current g/f until after we are married for fear of taking away attention from us. Now this. I know I am being totally selfish and will most definitely keep my feelings to myself, but I just needed to vent and tell someone how I feel.
Post # 3
I’ve heard this a lot and not just from people on weddingbee.
Are you guys not the oldest child?
I don’t really understand it but I’m thinking because I am the oldest so haven’t really had that experience of having someone always go first and then almost going first and then it being taken away from you again.
Post # 4
We each have one older sibling and neither of them have ever been married or have children. His brother was engaged several years ago and had his heart broken, so this is his first long term relationship and has been with the gal a couple of years. When he was engaged, his mother threw him a lavish engagement party and showered his finacee with gifts and attention. I think that is why I am feeling so left out by his mother, she is once again, spoiling yet another one of his g/f’s. and ignoring me. I guess I just have wanted to feel important to her and part of the family and have yet to feel that even though I ahve known her for 20 years now.
Post # 5
I am having that same experience. My older sister announced that she was pregnant right after we announced our engagement. But my mom is SO concerned with her and her pregnancy and hardly asks about my planning. I’m used to it though, being the middle child. Plus, my whole family knows my mom totally favors my older sister. I also don’t mind not having the attention. Part of me is even worried that everyone will be watching me at my wedding! Anyway, don’t let them rain on your parade!