(Closed) Why am I letting everything get to me?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I really don’t understand why you would be upset about your brother’s girlfriend planning her’s and your brother’s wedding, unless it is on the same day as yours. And I am sure your brother is an adult and can make a decision on whether or not he wants to be in your wedding or not.

Also, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t be thankful for your FMIL’s offer of help. You can let her know nicely the things you are willing to let her help with and the things you would rather do on your own.

In my opinion, these things are not worth dwelling on and getting upset over. I suggest taking a break from things and doing something else; maybe go for a spa day or a weekend getaway with your fiance. Just go do something for yourself and/or yourselves.

Things like these are not worth worrying about.

Post # 5
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@peachbaby4008:  I wouldn’t worry about your brother & hers wedding too much, unless it was on the same day LOL, you guys will have your own special day & everything will be great.  & I could only WISH that someone would offer to do all that stuff for me…. LOL 

Post # 6
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154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Breath…… It’s going to be okay. 🙂 My mother in law was doing something similar. I had my husband talk to her about it and then he talked to me about it from her point of veiw and it has been okay since she’s still helping but back off a bit and let me be more in charge. Remember to invite her to things! the girlfriend I mean. If she is how you made her sound she wil most likely take offense if you don’t invite her to the pre wedding things. My husbands brothers ex Fiance refused to invite me to anything pre wedding and i didn’t really care becasue we didn’t get along but it upset him since he was the best man. She actually went so far as to plan the engagement party on my Birthday and said I wasn’t invited (they got engaged a few months before that). It caused a problem between my husband and his brother cause she was really petty and wouldn’t let him over to our apartment when we lived only a block away. I only mention that becasue that’s what it reminded me of when i read what you said about her. But inviting her may ease some tension between you two and make things easier on your brother.

Post # 8
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@peachbaby4008: The best thing you can do is focus on yourself. No more texts between you and your brother’s girlfriend regarding wedding details — just keep it light if she asks. Chin up. Be happy knowing your wedding will be unique and unlike any other, especially your brother’s. Also, stand firm on the FMIL’s “you’ll see, you’ll love it” thing she pulls. Just reinforce at every turn a polite: “you’re so sweet but really, no thank you.” or have your Fiance talk with her if she persists. Good luck and hang in there!

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