Post # 1
Just ranting about me and my stupid laid back, lackadaisical personality. So back in May I came off BC (just married, assumed it would take a year or so before getting back to normal given I had been on it for 12 years) and we went into NTNP mode with the plan that if I hadn’t fallen pregnant by October we would put the plans to conceive on hold. This was my choice, my very dearest and close friend is getting married in Europe next August and I will not miss it nor do I aim to be pregnant at it given the fun filled week we are planning! At the time I’m like ah yeah super cool, fine with this, not bothered at all, easy, I can wait till next year if it doesn’t happen!
WELL.. Now that November is here and shock, I’m not pregnant, I’m livid with myself because I clearly wanted to be now that I am not! To make matters worse around September things started to feel fully back to normal, with me tracking ovulating accurately and fully feeling the urge to get it on for the last 3 cycles including right now, this minute, fully ovulating, fully ready, had to bat my hubby away last night.
My hubby is like hell yeah , ready to jump my bones and then I’m like down boy, and my ovaries are like fertilize me! It’s a whole mess but I can’t stress how much this wedding means to me and I couldn’t miss it.
So that’s my rant.. what a silly little fool I was.
Post # 2
jemmlove12 : I think it just means you’re 100% ready to be pregnant. There’s no shame in waiting for this wedding. I highly recommend you just start preparing yourself – that was what I did while we had to wait. I started prenatals, started reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility, and really focused on the things I wanted to do NOW before I became pregnant (eating healthier, getting in shape, finding a new job, whatever). This will help you feel like you’re still working towards that goal.
Post # 3
SeaOfLove : Fantastic advice, we have a lot going on next year too, a ski trip in May and we are leaving the States to relocate to Europe! So it really would be a lot more difficult doing all those things pregnant. I think I am completely upset at the thought of not giving birth until 2021! Which seems like so long away! & even though it seems like it would be more difficult, I’m suddenly so very ready to be a mother. Also how the heck am I going to deal with my raging ovaries each month, I literally feel like the term “in heat” ! Just annoyed with myself in general but will apply your advice for sure.
Post # 4
jemmlove12 : The fertile window libido is real! I highly recommend sitting yourself down with that book every time you’re feeling broody so you can come up with a plan on how to conceive. Also, you could start temping ahead of time to “get to know” your body. I maybe lasted two months with that while not TTC, but it was nice to familiarize myself with what I was getting myself into.
Post # 5
I can so relate to this! We started trying this summer and got pregnant, then miscarried in Sept. Due to some life changes we decided to hold off on TTC until this coming Summer. Of course when I got to get my IUD today they say they cant put it in until I get my period. So now we have to use condoms (which I hate!) and I want to just say f it and take our chances. But we have good reasons for waiting and things will be better then so I know rationally its the right thing to do.
So sorry hun! I feel your pain.
Post # 6
mg8301 : I remember your post! Ugh condoms are a pain, we are not using any BC at the moment I am getting pretty accurate OPK’s and my body gives me ALL the signs of ovulation on top of that, I cramp, I get acne and my CM is pretty EW so we just avoid those days and “pull out” which I know isn’t 100% but nothing is! But I am same, feel like saying fuck it. I am sure when the time comes though will be all worth it!
Post # 7
May I suggest dedicating yourself to any home improvements that you need to have done before a baby comes? It’s easy to forget how unpleasant the smell of paint, or standing on ladders, or carrying boxes up or down stairs can be when pregnant. We had our windows replaced when getting my daughter’s nursery ready, and the smell of the caulk they used made me decide to literally move out of the house for a week. And here I am again, pregnant and trying to sort through all the junk we stored in the “extra bedroom” at the last minute. Your future pregnant self will thank you if you do that kind of stuff now!