(Closed) why am I planning this if his family can’t be there…advice??

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry – that’s really tough.  I think you and your Fiance need to find out what your top priorities are and that will help you make the decision.  For me, I would want all of our immediate family members to be in attendance – no matter what.  I would give up all the “details” (the season, location, etc) that I originally wanted to make sure everyone could be there.  That being said, we are both very close to our families.

 

Unfortunately there are no easy answers though.  Ultimately it’s a decision you have to make with your Fiance.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

planning a wedding in three months is def possible, as long as you go with the attitude of keep it simple. I.e instead of ordering a dress, buying off the rack. I think it would be a good idea to reconsider a destination wedding.. and do something differant.

But I think you def need to discuss it with FH.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I completely agree with ccranetobe.  Planning a wedding in three months would be possible 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is really tough. My FH’s family won’t be there either but we are having 50 people, hopefully his Boyfriend or Best Friend from England and his fiance will be included in that. To me, the courthouse thing makes sense if you really don’t want to do it anymore. But I also think it’s possible to put a wedding together quickly as long as you are willing to compromise on the venue. Everything will be booked up so I’d look into doing a local park wedding or a national park wedding. We are having our ceremony on a budget of 5K and doing it in my parent’s backyard. We haven’t gotten the ball rolling yet and we are 8 months out. Do what makes you happy and will cause you the least stress.

Have you thought about having a destination wedding for just you two? FH and I thought about doing that when we found out his family wouldn’t be attending.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yay, congrats! you will definately be one busy bee:-)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Congrats!  It sounds like you did the right thing for you.  If you keep the guest list as small as originally planned, this can absolutely be done in 3 months, especially since you don’t have to plan the honeymoon at the same time.  Have you thought of having the reception at a really nice restaurant?  Then you mostly have to plan the ceremony.  Good luck – I wish I could do this but I have a billion family members I’m close to who would be really hurt, and Fiance has a billion friends he wants to show a good time. 

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