(Closed) Why am I so strange and weird??

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not weird. My husband and I didn’t have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We went with about 8 friends to a baseball game and it was awesome!  You do what works for you and shake off the haters.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

You’re not weird at all! You’re just at an age where you’re past all of that silly partying lifestyle which is totally normal. In fact I’m much closer to your sister’s age than yours and I would hate a traditional drinking / partying hens so maybe I’m the weird one!! Just have a chat with your sister and let her know you appreciate all the effort she’s putting in but you’d be more comfortable if she toned it down to some quieter plans that suit what you’re comfortable with. 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I’m not going to lie. I’ve always thought bachelor/bachelorette parties were super dumb. 

I would definitely not want one either. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

niki2015:  I didn’t have one. Nobody offered to throw one, but I wouldn’t have wanted one anyway. I’m just not into partying. I get anxiety in crowded, hot and loud bars. I’d much rather hang out by the pool or at a quiet pub with some friends. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not weird Im exactly like you! My favorite night is a night in watching a movie, in yoga pants and bra is negotable. However I knew my friends really wanted to throw me one so I made sure it would be low key. We met at my friend’s house and then headed out to dinner. We all saw a movie (Five Year Engagement was out at the time) then headed back to my Maid/Matron of Honor house snuggled in and watched a movie. It ended up being a lot fun hanging out with my friends and watching some good movies.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

niki2015:  I wanted to go to the zoo and aquarium. I conceded to the stupid sashes, but after getting a drink and seeing all the other Brides to Be hammered, dressed to the nines, and wearing penises, I was able to take that ish off and get my bridal party to agree that we are too old for that! Lol. 

You aren’t weird, you’ve just outgrown that phase. No need to get get yourself worked up over something that most women over 27 feel is silly. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s weird that you don’t want the party. I think it’s weird that you rejected it after your sister had already planned and spent money on it. At some point it becomes not just about you, but about the people who love you. They want to plan something, why not just let them? It doesn’t have to be a crazy party, it can be a chill evening at a lounge. Honestly you won’t be the centre of attention for all that long; at least for the ones I’ve been to, everyone talks about the wedding for about 10 minutes and then moves on and just has fun.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My husband and I didn’t have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We got together with a few friends for dinner and drinks. Neither of us are big partiers or heavy drinkers. Neither of us regret our decision. You do what you want to do. Don’t feel like you have to have a big blow out just because people expect you to. Why not suggest that you, your sister, mom, and a couple of friends go get mani/pedis and have a spa day. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I am 24 and don’t like stuff like that. I’ve never been a partier or crazy club going drinker. For my bachelorette party I had my closest group of friends (in total it was 4 people) go out and have a psychic reading done and then we went out to dinner. After dinner we went back to my house and played cards against humanity for hours with a couple of drinks. It was a lot of fun and definitely something I enjoyed a whole lot more than going out to a club or bar. 

as far as if you’ll regret not having one? I don’t think you would. If it’s not something you’d want to do, I don’t think you’ll regret not doing It. 

I didn’t go to my high school prom because I hated dresses and hated dancing. I didn’t have a date and really didn’t want to deal with crazy high school girl drama. So I skipped it. Everyone always told me I’d regret it, but to this day I can say with 100% confidence that I don’t regret it one bit at all. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I was 24 when I got married and I didn’t want the bar hopping crazy night either. My ladies planned a bike ride with a few friends and then we went for pizza afferward. No sashes or veils or crowns for me and it was like any other time hanging out. I LOVED it. If being the center if attention isn’t for you, that’s fine. Enjoy it and own it and find something that better suits you. You aren’t strange. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly, if I were working 12 hrs/day x 6 days/wk, I’d want my downtime, too. Your leisure time is precious! Guard it well!

Post # 14
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Honey bee

I don’t think it’s weird at all!

My Maid/Matron of Honor was asking me what I wanted to do for my bachelorette, thinking I’d want to go clubbing, see male strippers, etc. I told her I actually wouldn’t mind renting a cabin for a weekend at Deep Creek Lake in Maryland (about 3 hours from me), and going kayaking, getting massages, etc. She looked at me like I had 3 heads lol. I just don’t want some rambunctious blowout. I want to relax and do something fun that I’ve never done before!

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