(Closed) Why am I so upset when we’re not even TTC?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I hear you loud and clear! I have baby fever so bad. Sometimes I just sit alone and cry because its till 4 years till we plan to TTC. I’m also overweight, so I’m trying to focus on getting super healthy so when we do TTC I will be fit and healthy, ready to have a healthy pregnancy.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My clock isn’t ticking *quite* so loudly… however, I’m currently at that age when EVERYONE around me is getting pregnant. My best friend is pregnant, DH’s cousin is pregnant, a lot of people I’m friends with on facebook are pregnant… it just never ends. My cure is to go out to a restaurant where there are crying babies/children. Turns that clock right off!

We are not TTC, and probably won’t be for at least another year. We haven’t even been married 2 months yet… and I would like to buy a house first… our condo is too small to raise a baby in.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

My Future Sister-In-Law just announced she’s prengant again and I’m happy for them, really I am.  However, I have some reproductive fears as well as baby fever!  Part of it is I know their situation isn’t the best for bringing another child (not that it’s the child’s fault at all), he’s getting ready to deploy for 18 months and they’re living rent free in our in-laws house.  ARGH.  I hate when I’m jealous especially when my rational self is like “you’re not ready yet!”  So I definitely empathize!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I can definitely relate.  We have a few things that need to happen before we’re officially ready to TTC (mostly me finding a better job), so even though we’re not trying, it’s on my mind a lot.  And the age thing stresses me out too.  I’m 30, and we won’t start trying til I’m 31.  I know that’s still relatively young, but I want several children, so it feels pretty old to start.  Sigh.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can relate! Everyone around me is having babies and it’s giving me baby fever! I keep having dreams where I’m pregnant and when I got my period a few days ago I was dissapointed. Not that we’re TTC, not at all. But still…I was a little sad.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know what you mean.  I really want a baby too but we aren’t ready.  I wouldn’t be worried about age, you have a lot of time and guys don’t have age related problems with having babies like we do.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t worry too much–you guys still have some time! You definitely want to cross your T’s and dot your I’s before you have a baby, so just keep telling yourself how much it’ll be worth it when you KNOW you are ready, both mentally (already there, right?) and everything else =] You got the itch–and you know how the longer you wait to scratch it, the better it feels? haha, look at it that way πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CaraMia10: Just wanted to pipe in and say that my sister also had a lot of reproductive issues, had unprotected sex with her then boyfriend for years and it was all well and good…until my nephew popped up πŸ™‚ So if you guys aren’t using protection it could be sooner that you think! But I totally relate on the baby fever front–I have had SO many dreams lately where I’m pregnant and then I wake up and I’m not and it’s a bit sad πŸ™ 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

MY brother’s friend was only telling me a couple weeks back that his wife had been told at twenty she’d prob never have a child by her docs. I didn’t ask for specifics. She’s 35 now, I think, and they have an 18 month old. Out of the blue.

And if your weight is an issue, it can be a very big issue, so to speak. I have worries in that respect myself, and we’re really starting TTC in May, so I know the doc is gonna be on my case to shrink my ass this Spring…

Chin up, chick, you’ll be fine!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

oh my, Im going to jump right on that train with you.

My Fiance and I are not getting married for a few months but I am so ready to TTC.

My Future Sister-In-Law and my sister literally just had babies a few weeks ago.  I feel like everyone in our families has a new baby but us :/

We just spent the weekend with my sister and her baby is 3 weeks old. She was so adorable. My Fiance and I held her a lot, it just felt… I dunno natural?

My Fiance looked at me at one point while holding her and whispered “how awesome is this going to be, to hold a little one thats half of me and half of you.” He then proceeded to stick his finger out so she could grab onto it.

**SWOON**

Man I want a family so bad. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

YES!!!! ugh but we are TTC and i also need to lose weight because i think that is the problem so far.. this is 5 months.. well im in the TWW πŸ™ but my Future Sister-In-Law has a 4 month old baby and 2 other kids that i love to death! and the baby loves me… im one of the few people he will let hold him. and i just get so depressed and break down after seeing my nieces and nephews, to the point  where Darling Husband is like we need to see them less until we are expecting. I dont think its fair to them because they love my husband and me but i jsut get so sad. She isn’t set financially she doesn’t even have a job she hasnt since she had her first one who is going to be 5 years old… and they are both on WIC and welfare.  UGH just makes me so mad because me and Darling Husband have been working for years now and have the income and house to provide for a baby.. and its so hard!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sitting here about to have a mini meltdown because I just did some calculations and if we conceived in the next few days (I’m in my golden week), we would have a little one a few weeks before Halloween.   This past Halloween I loved looking at all the newborn costumes.  I just love the idea of them.

But sigh—FI and I aren’t getting married for a few more months and I think if I brought this up to him he would think I’m baby obsessed or something.

(Honestly, he might be right)

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