Post # 1
Here’s a little back story: J and I have been together for almost 2 1/2 years. In February he said he knew he wanted to marry me and that he wanted to use his tax return to purchase an engagement ring. So we went ring shopping together and picked out a gorgeous engagement ring.
It has been sitting on his desk ever since, taunting me. I thought that since it seemed like he was in a hurry to purchase the ring (not wanting to get something custom because of the extra time it would take to make it) he was thinking he was going to do it soon. I thought maybe he was waiting for my graduation, but that came and went.
All he has told me is that he hasn’t asked my father yet (which I told him was necessary even though I am 28). This is not a particularly hard thing for him to do because we are renting from my parents. They own a business which operates right behind our house! I kept thinking if I make him come over to my parents house he will be bound to ask my father one of the times he is over there. So he has been over to my parents house quite a few times in the last couple of months. Still nothing.
Recently he has told me that when he gets back from his two weeks with his guard unit (Army National Guard) that he wants to take a three day trip to either Niagara Falls or Atlantic City. He said he is setting up the plans (which is unusual) and hasn’t said a whole lot about it since.
I’m trying not to get my hopes up because I’m afraid it won’t happen again and I won’t be able to enjoy the trip, but at the same time, what is the deal? He has had the ring for 4 months. He assures me that he still wants to marry me and that nothing has changed but it’s bothering me. I have never been the girl who pressures a guy to move forward, I have always been fine with a relationship moving at whatever pace was right, but since he has had the ring I feel like I just want him to propose already! It’s so frustrating.
Sorry this is so long, I don’t feel like I have shared my whole story on here before. I guess I’m just looking for support or advice from other waiting bees. Did any other bees SOs make them wait this long after they had the ring??
Post # 3
I know that must be frustrating, but since he’s bought the ring I’m sure he has a plan and it won’t be too much longer now 🙂
Post # 4
im not one with much experience but i know about the waiting game and i think that he really does wanna ask u but he wants the moment to be perfect. idk why guys are like that cause all we really want is for them to just give it to us but they really do take their time. i know its hard but i would just take this trip as another getaway for u guys and not expect the ring because it would just be tourture and u wont be able to enjoy it. i hope this helps
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. That must be torture. On one hand you’re happy because you can taste it. He has the ring just needs to ask. But on the other hand you’re like WHY all the elapsed time. I think guys don’t really understand the turmoil they put us through. I bet he’s trying to get your mind off of it and bring back the element of surprise. So I would say TRY to keep quiet. And if I had to take a guess he IS going to propose on that trip. Good Luck!
Post # 6
Thanks for the replies ladies. I still feel kinda like I’m out here all alone. I read so many other waiting bees posts where they are waiting for the ring and not long after they have it they are engaged. It just seems like to me the hard part is out of the way, he has the ring, he knows my answer and all he has to do is ask.
@PrettySedity: I really hope he does it on the trip. It will be either at the end of this month or the beginning of next month. I just don’t want to be disappointed. I don’t know if he thinks that waiting this long will make me forget that he bought the ring, but that is not gonna happen. It does feel like maybe he has forgotten though. 🙁
Post # 7
@happyheartbee: I can most certainly relate- according to “sources” (that shall be unamed) he has had the ring since March- and I asked to get engaged this summer. Im hoping it will happen next month but who knows? I totally get the whole torture bit though dear *hugs*
any time now!
Post # 8
@Bellanouva: It’s nice to know that there is someone out there that can relate. I hope for both our sanities that these guys do it soon!