(Closed) Why am I stressed?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1227 posts
Bumble bee

Wedding planning is stressful.  Like everything else about marriage, it’s nothing like the movies or what you see on TV.

Your venue sounds like an AMZAING deal. It’s your wedding, your life, and your money and you should do what will make you happy.

If you wait a year or two to buy a house, so be it. It’s not the end of the world. You will only get one chance at having your wedding, and if that’s what’s important to you, then do it your way. Yes, it’s a lot of money to have a wedding. The wonderful thing about money though is you can always make more of it.

As to the honeymoon, a few days alone at a B&B or a cottage out of town can be just as nice as something more extravagant.  You can always delay taking your honeymoon.

Good luck.

Post # 4
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wedding planning isn’t stressful, it’s everyone else’s opinions that make it stressful.  Seriously, be prepared for more unsolicited advice because you’re going to get it by the bushel.  The way I see it is, it’s your money and your wedding and as long as you do what makes you happy and is within your budget, you shouldn’t be made to feel bad for your decisions.  Best of luck and remember try to have fun with it.

Post # 5
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

NO! You should not be changing your plans because of other people influencing you. If a wedding is important to you and your fi, there should be no reason for you to change those plans because of other family members deciding how you should spend your money. 

I would be so upset if my fmil or even my mom would make me feel badly for going out to eat dinner and making me choose between sushi and wedding. ugh. 

In the end, nobody but you and your fi are paying for this, and if it’s good for you, it should be great for them. Also, the venue you got really is a steal! I think you should be firm about your decision (if you are ready to make that decision) and run with it! You have your dress, and if you want this venue, put a deposit down and shut everyone up!

You’re stressed out because others are stressing you. Show them who’s boss and that should make things a lot easier. I went through very similar in the beginning of wedding planning and when I stood my ground, things got easier and more enjoyable!

Post # 7
1227 posts
Bumble bee

@MissLacy:  You’re welcome. We’re paying for our wedding ourselves too, and have no one telling us what to do, and I feel stressed and overwhelmed at time.

You have your whole life to take beach resort vacations. If you can’t have one right after you wed, it’s ok. It’s not the end of your life, it’s the begining. 🙂


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