Why am I struggling so much with this?

posted 1 year ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Newbee

Could you negotiate some work from home days with this new job or do you think that would make them see you in a bad light? I work full time from home so it’s the best of both worlds. I have full time pay and benefits but get to be home to take care of the dog and house. My job had never been work from home before but I had made up my mind to move out of state and figured it didn’t hurt to ask.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I agree with PP- is there any way that you can work from home some days? If it worked out for you to have some time to work from home and have an in home nanny on those days, I’d go with that option- since money will be more spacious, it would allow you to still be somewhat available to your son but focus on work and still get the financial increase that your family needs.

I stayed home for 2 years and then transitioned to working part time (while my mother stayed with my son) and then, once he was in school (and I couldn’t stand the financial constraint anymore!), I transitioned to full time work. Another thing I noticed, though, was that working part time was of benefit to me, as well, so I’m trying to figure out a way to go back to that while also maintaining a more abundant financial situation- especially since we’re planning another baby soon.

Good luck! What does your SO say?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I very much felt the same way when I went back to part time work between my second and third babies, I’d rather have stayed at home but the opportunity to get ahead financially was too good to pass up! 

And you don’t have to stay in the job if you find that it’s not working for your family, give it six months to see if it’s a good fit and if you decide it’s not then talk to your boss about making changes or resign.

Just think about it as a change in season and an opportunity for you to contribute to your family in a different way. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

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lichfieldangel :  what does your husband say about it? this should be a joint, household decision, after all…

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Don’t forget that your life is not all about your child, it’s about you too! Too many parents base their decisions on their children’s welfare, at the cost of their own. In the long run this is a bad plan. If taking the job would please you, rim the standpoint of the contribution you’re making to the family I think you should go for it. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yes, the financial strain of working part time is tough, but I wouldn’t trade it for a full time paycheck any day. I’m right there with you. I used to work full time, had kids and was purely miserable when I went back full time. I made the decision to not work full time until all kids are in school at least and I’m so happy I did. I fully support women who need to work full time. I’m definitely NOT mommy bashing at all. I just know that for us it just doesn’t work. My fiancé is gone looooong hours during the day. I just wanted one parent to be more present and not rely so much on my parents or babysitters. We cut corners and get creative so that I can be home more. I don’t feel guilty about it, it’s just what we’ve decided works for us. You need to take care of your family however that looks for you.

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