(Closed) Why am I suddenly jealous she's pregnant?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
643 posts
Busy bee

@mrshoneybee:  im engaged now, and my FH and I have also decided to buy a house and get some money into savings before we TTC. Though, I have alot of friends who have recently had children and the father is not in the picture. I also have friends who are expecting and are recently married or getting married. I feel so jealous that I am not the one having the baby. ๐Ÿ™ I  take a step back though and realize that we are taking the time to give the baby everything we can. We will not be stuggling when we decide to have the baby and we will be able to enjoy getting married, buying a house, traveling, and saving vs having the baby and trying to do all of those things right now. You shouldn’t be jealous, you are doing whats right for you two and the baby should be the reward later when you two had time to be married adults ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
3 posts

I don’t have any advice to offer but I can tell you that I get incredibly jealous these days when someone announces their pregnancy. Not only do I get jealous but I sometimes shut myself away and have a little cry! How sad is that?! In my case the reason is because one of my biggest fears is not having children and I worry that might happen to me. Sometimes I just get a little bit jealous but it’s particularly acute when the couple in question haven’t been together very long. Like you say, it somehow makes me feel like our relationship is less than theirs because we’re further behind. I don’t like to even admit this to people! Lol!

Edit: I also get jealous when people announce their engagement. Be thankful to have a husband and remember that you’re still very young. I’m still waiting on the engagement and the wait for me might last an eternity!


Post # 6
848 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I sometimes feel the same way. I’ve always said I wanted to be married a few years before TTC but the wave of babies around me makes me feel like I need to get on that bandwaggon asap.

Then I realized, when we finally do TTC we will be in such a good place and so ready for it…..and everyone will still be so happy and excited for us. There really isn’t a rush.

Especially since you are younger you still have a lot of time to accomplish what you and your DH want before bringing a baby into the mix which I think you and DH will find more satisfying in the future



Post # 8
3910 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Im sorry you are feeling like that.  A lot of bees have felt like that before too.  I started feeling like that when I was and am trying to actively conceive.  I guess its normal you might want to be already in the same place as your friends and relatives, but always remember that there is nothing wrong with taking your time.  You will get there and someone else may feel jelly of you lol…hope you feel better soon ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
159 posts
Blushing bee

because you are a woman

Post # 10
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are only 23 you have plenty of time. Just think of it as they are in a different place in their lives right now and your time will come. Enjoy your time because once a child comes you wont be able to do the things you do right now. Try to see that this is the time to really enjoy your husband develop a stronger bond because when a child comes there will less time to spend together more time will be given to the baby on both sides.


Post # 11
2041 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I literally could have written this post.

We are waiting to buy a house first, and DH has a family member who just announced they are expecting. I am SO excited for her, because I know they were trying, and I think she will be a really wonderful mom.

But there is definitely a green-eyed monster seething in me….I feel exactlly like you do: I know it’s not time for us yet, but I think I’m mostly jealous that it is for them, and not for us.

Honestly, the best way I’ve been getting over it is by focusing on all the things we are going to be able to do BEFORE we TTC: we have a few trips planned, some weekends at the cottage (with lots of drinking!) with friends, and last minute weekend or evening plans.  Not to mention the fun of buying and setting up our first home.

Just try to focus on those things…we are still so blessed with what we DO have..and our time will come ๐Ÿ™‚ And in the meantime we get to be the fun aunts who wind them up and send them home!

Post # 12
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mrshoneybee:  I feel this way all the time. I’d like to get settled into our new home (in another country), find stable employment there, and save some money before TTC. I really want a child now, and wish I were at a place in my life where I felt 100% responsible and ready to have one. I’m 27, and sometimes I think that means in 2-3 years when I’m already, the pressure will be on. 

I think we need to remind ourselves that as much as we want a child, we also want the best life possible for that child, which may mean waiting… though of course that doesn’t totally easy the pangs of jealousy.

Also- we can still enjoy holding/shopping for/gushing over other people’s babies… knowing full-well that we can give them back and have a margarita or four when they start to cry or smell. :o)

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