- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I absolutely love my maid of honor, she is a best friend, sister, and the best confidant next to my FH that I could ask for in a human being. She has the ability and strength to look me dead in my face and tell me if I’m being an idiot rather than just side with me “just because” i’m her bff. I appreciate her in every single way. EXCEPT…I’m a tiny 105 5’3″ person and she’s the polar opposite of that. None of this is ever an issue and, in fact, that’s what makes us so close. I am the only “skinny girl” that wants to gain weight, but can’t. It is virtually impossible for me to put on weight…some call that lucky, I do not.
If you’ve followed me this long then you’re probably wondering what I’m anxious about? Well, I’m anxious about going bridesmaid dress shopping. Because you see, my BFF is not comfortable with her weight, or the fact that she’s never went dress shopping like this. Every dress I see online and do the “what do you think of this one” she has scoffed over and pointed out why it isn’t a good dress for an overweight girl. She insists that this is something that she has to do because not for one second would she ever NOT be my maid of honor. For that I feel honored that she is willing to put aside her insecurities to be there for me and beside me on such an important time of my life BUT…I’m so afraid that she won’t agree to any of the dresses. I’m so afraid that someone else will offend her and push her ego lower than it already is.
Anyone with insecurities about their body knows what I’m talking about, you go to try on a dress, come out of the dressing room and someone makes that ONE comment you can’t get out of your head for years! I do not want my wedding to be another rung on the ladder of “fat” comments that ring in her head.
All of you – skinny and shapely alike – can you give me some ideas about how I can make this day a little more light hearted and fun, things that I can do or say on the day of that will take some of the spotlight off of my MOH? I have taken the time to find a salon in my area that features plus sized dresses to help ensure there will be stuff that she can also try on. Are there any MORE flattering cuts for an overweight Maid/Matron of Honor that has an apple shape? Or should I just stop worrying about this day and let it play out? HELP! =)