- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I feel a little bit frustrated today. A lot bit.
My fiance and I worked a festival this weekend & both made close to $1,400. I told him today that I was putting 30% of that directly into savings for the wedding. He said to me “I wish I could save that much but ive got this and this and this to pay for.”
I’m getting really annoyed with him because we’ve had fights over him being irresponsible so many times before that there’s no point in me even trying to bring up the saving conversation with him AGAIN. I feel like no matter how much money he or I pull in, he’s always going to have an excuse of why he can’t save money.
People are begining to give us weird looks since we don’t have a date picked out yet for our wedding, and my FI keeps saying in response to ppl “we’re just saving up right now and figuring out what we can afford.” It makes me want to scream “ACTUALLY I’M THE ONLY ONE SAVING.” I told him I didn’t want to be engaged until I was finished with school, yet he asked me anyways. I’m starting to resent all this extra stress weddings bring along with them when it appears to me that he can’t even grow up enough to realize what it takes to make a grand wedding (like he wants…i want a small one) happen.
I think his financial irresponsibility is both the biggest reason why I haven’t gotten excited about planning a wedding (or really even started) & why I’ve been so good at saving my money this year. I want to have enough money to pay for a wedding and not be in debt over it, but I don’t want to pay more than my fair share of it. Either way, having money saved up is never a bad thing. I just wish he would start being more serious about it