Post # 1
This is probably a dumb question, but since I am still months away from my wedding, I find myself wondering why it seems like brides are SO busy and stressed out the week before their wedding. I do have a wedding planner, so maybe that’s why I’m imagining it differently. The only stuff I can think of that I will have to do the week before is beauty stuff like mani/pedi, facial, waxing etc. Help me know what’s coming by telling me what you had to do the few weeks prior to your wedding!! Thanks!
Post # 2
There really wasn’t much to do for me, all the big stuff was done. The only thing I had to do was remember to bring seating cards and guestbook and stuff to the rehersal dinner so the coordinator would have them to put out. Oh, and I had to pick up my centerpieces the day before and my bouquets the morning of. But nothign was stressful and rushed or busy. We even had out of town guest rotate through the house for the week leading up the wedding.
Post # 3
I wasn’t stressed, but I had some stuff to do. Picking up last minute rental items and doing some venue decorating, getting waxed and primped at the salon, and making sure the house was ready for getting ready the morning of, etc. But it wasn’t hectic or insane or stressful. Just exciting!
Post # 4
I worked Mon/Tues/Wed before my wedding.
Wednesday night I did all the shopping for the food that we were DIY’ing.
Thursday I got the flowers for the wedding, and I prepped a lot of food and had the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner.
Friday I had a job interview in the morning (for the job I have now, haha), and my aunts prepped the rest of the food during that. Friday afternoon/evening we did the flowers.
I think it’s important to keep any last minute DIY items to a minimum. I just the flowers and appetizers/drinks. My ex-husband was in Vegas for a few of those days – he came back on Thursday just before the rehearsal (eye roll). Think about who’s helping you and underestimate how much you can get done in those last couple days. I wasn’t stressed out, but I was busy. I’m glad I didn’t take on more than I did! Actually the job interview was unplanned! I got a call for it the Tuesday before the wedding, but I REALLY wanted the job, so I made it work!
Post # 5
raspberrymojito: i was only moderately busy – mostly because for the year before my wedding i was a planning monster and made lists, refined list, double-refined lists, assigned people to tasks, got everything done SUPER EARLY and so the week of my wedding i actually had some downtime. it was glorious.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
raspberrymojito: Because there’s some things you can’t do until that week. I worked Mon-Thursday had Friday off to decorate the hall and have the rehearsal and dinner, then married on Saturday.
There are lots of last minute questions to answer from friends and family, numbers to turn into your caterer, confirm things with all vendors, final payments to make, pack for the honeymoon/night of wedding, etc.
Do what you can ahead of time and you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 7
I was busy and did have a major breakdown the monday before, but only due to the weather saying it was going to rain (it had been looking wonderful until Monday, but it all worked out no rain at all) so I had to work out a rain option, and there was just lots of last minute suff like place cards, signs, little things that take up a strange lot of time. I did a ton ahead of time but I was still super busy the week of.
Post # 8
I was pretty stressed and busy the week before the wedding. I thought I had most things done, but it still turned out to be a lot. Plus with the anticipation and stress I stopped sleeping much and so was only getting a few hours of sleep each night. I worked the week of my wedding on Monday and Tuesday. We had a couple late declines and there was some adjusting of table seats and seating cards, etc.
In that week we had to put together and deliver a bunch of things to our venue and meet with the coordinator. I needed to fix an issue with my shoes, make sure I had all my dress stuff together and ready to go. FI and I had to practice our first dance and vows. I had to pack for the hotel stay and everything for the wedding. I had to clean the house for family who were visiting. I had to finalize a bunch of stuff for the rehearsal dinner and to do with the rehearsal itself.
I got flowers delivered late in the week and had to prep them (unpack, stem cut, de-thorn roses, hydrate) and then the next day create the arrangements and pack them up ready to take them to the venue.
All of that plus my future in laws and my aunt came into town early and so we spent a bunch of time with them. They were helpful in some ways but also a lot of time spent with them doing meals and going places.
Post # 9
I was fine, until two things we didn’t think we had to do at all came up (making a backdrop for the photo”booth” and figuring out favors) but because we had everything else done I wasn’t stressed out about it at all.
Post # 10
I know i am crazy organized, and i have been done things for months and my wedding is May 31st. But i am definitely taking the two days before my wedding off to cross t’s and dot the i’s. Also fitting in there my eyelash, nail and hair appointment!
Post # 11
I worked at a summer camp for 3 weeks and came back the week before my wedding. I expected to have a lot to do, but what I ddin’t expect was that my maid of honour would back out for no good reason a week before the wedding. I had to reprint sooo many things, reconfigure the seating for the bridal party, ask my SIL to stand beside me, ask another friend to be my witness since SIL is too young, and then on top of taht I had to deal with accusations from the director of the summer camp about my relationship with Darling Husband. It was probably the most awful week of my life, and it didn’t help that when I came back from camp Darling Husband was out on his awesome bachelor party and I didn’t get one because my Maid/Matron of Honor backed out the day before it was supposed to happen.
Post # 12
I had an elaborate engagement party, so I’m answering this based on that experience. Even though we had a lot of family fly in, the week before was smooth for me. However, I could tell that my planner was obviously stressed with some vendors.
We hired an event stylist and a planning company, and they had worked together before, so we had no real issues that needed our attention. The planner managed all of the vendors, and the only thing my parents had to do was deliver all the final vendor cheques to the planner. She put them all in envelopes, and had already worked out the tip amount before she sent the invoices.
I didn’t find out until after the fact, but the florist apparently tried to use yellow (instead of ivory) tulips in some of the arrangements, but my stylist caught that when she visited to see the flowers once they had arrived at the florist’s studio. I’m so glad she did that because that’s not something I would have wanted on my plate. While they had to figure out how to get a crapload of ivory tulips in right away, I was probably hanging out drinking wine, haha.
I’m considering using the same teams for my wedding because it was a stress free experience. I hope your planner is able to manage your event as smoothly as mine did! The only real difference between the engagement party and the wedding will be getting ready to leave for the honeymoon, and I always pack way in advance anyway.
I think that if you’re not doing any DIY and you have a good planner, you can spend the week enjoying the company of visiting family.
Post # 13
A week before the wedding, all of the big stuff should be done. I planned my wedding myself, and it was a simple one. We did the best we could to reduce the number of vendors. We used artificial flowers to bypass that; our cake was from a retailer (Publix/Walmart/etc. style) that we picked up and delivered ourselves the morning of the wedding (it was 10 minutes away from the venue). We had our ceremony and reception at the same place. The music was provided by my uncle. The officiant was a relative who was ordained for that very purpose months ahead of schedule. All catering was done by the venue, and we did the decorating.
We had a small wedding — 55 guests — so there were only 10 tables to really decorate (by that, I mean “throw on some centerpieces”). The venue provided linens, napkins, chair covers and sashes, etc.
About a week before the wedding, I looked my checklist over and realized that everything was done. The day of the wedding, I got ready at my parents’ place (did my own hair and makeup). It was the least stressful week of the whole process.
At some point, you have to realize that what’s done is done, and there’s little you can do a week out to change it. Most people WILL NOT remember your wedding (besides very notable things — the OP whose guests had sex in the garden? People will remember that for a while). They won’t care about your favors a week after the wedding, they won’t remember your cake, they won’t remember if you flubbed your vows. I went to 3 weddings last year, including my own.
You remember your own wedding better than anyone else. There are SO many details of the others’ weddings that I’ve already forgotten. Really, the wedding is to be enjoyed that day and then let go. It’s for you and it’s to symbolize the beginning of what is to come. I think if more folks realized that, they wouldn’t be so busy killing themselves the week of the wedding — often to make sure that everything is “perfect.”
Post # 14
I was bad and procrastinated some of my DIY. But there was also a fair amount of stuff that couldn’t be done until the few days before the wedding. So it was unavoidable for me. But I took the week prior off work so it worked out. I refused to let myself get stressed out, but I was definitely super busy!
Post # 15
raspberrymojito: My wedding was on a Friday with rehearsal being Thursday. I worked Monday-Wednesday, had rehearsal Thursday, got married Friday, and returned back to work that Monday.
I didn’t have a wedding planner at all. I just got all my crap done in time, and gathered all my stuff up the day before rehearsal. I wasn’t stressed at all. I was even less stressed the day before when we decorated becuase my mindset shifted to just not caring anymore. All I cared about was getting married.