Post # 1
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Busy Beekeeper
This is just a little mini-rant 😉
Getting off of the train this morning there was a guy yelling/preaching to the crowd.
“Ladies! If you ain’t smiling and you’re single….you just might remain single! I’m just trying to help you. You look so much better when you smile!”
Why? Seriously why are random strangers always telling us to smile? I’ve never once heard a man tell another man that they should smile. My husband has never been told by a stranger to “give me a smile” or “smile, sweatheart” in his life. Yet it’s something I hear at least once a week!
Ugh. Not how I wanted to start my Friday morning.
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
I think this is a very outdated way of thinking. That women should always look happy and pretty if they want to find a husband. How nauseating, I’m sorry your morning started this way. I suggest a well deserved trip to Starbucks as a pick me up! 😉
Post # 3
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Honey bee
llevinso : I hate being “told” to look a certain way, and by a strenger? Yeah, UGH is right. A bossy person is the last thing that will make me smile.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
ugh, I hate that “hey pretty girl why aren’t you smiling” “common give me a smile” “so serious! you’d be prettier if you smiled”
maybe I’d smile more if I could go buy milk without some asshole telling me how to look while I’m trying to get shit done.
Last time someone told me to smile, I told him to sew his mouth shut and mind his own fucking business.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
snowdrops : Drinking my coffee now! 🙂
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
llevinso : I can’t stand this. Heard it all through jr high, high school, young adult life and still hear it at 34. Apparently my normal face reads as F*ck Off to the rest of the world but I really can’t help that lol I just don’t go around cheesing for no reason but I’m perfectly happy inside. Last time I heard this it was, “Damn girl smile its not that bad.” Thanks but I haven’t been a girl for quite some time and don’t need to be told what to do with my face. smh
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
Because we exist solely for men to look at, and they like us better when we’re smiling. Obviously. 
Post # 8
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Helper bee
This irks me TO NO END. I can’t stand when people say things like this to me. I’m not here to look happy and pretty for you. Fuck off!
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Because our bodies are expected to always be ready for public consumption. I tell these people to fuck off.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I hate this to no end!
Also, I hate hate double hate loathe when people say things like, “you’re very quiet!” or “you’re reserved!”.
Why yes, I am. Nice observation there, I hadn’t noticed in 30 years on planet Earth that some people like to talk, a lot… and I’m not one of those people. I think you’re loud and obnoxious, but it’s not polite to say those things so I don’t know why me being less talkative than you automatically means something must be wrong with me.
Rant over =)
Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
llevinso : I generally just ignore it, but one time after doing that the guy instead turned to my mom and said “damn – why couldn’t you do a better job in raising your daughter not be a bitch?!” I completely lost my
[email protected]#$ on him in front of a big crowd on a street in downtown Boston. It took me hours to calm down again.
Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
Oh, I hate that, too! I find it very intrusive. And it has never once worked.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
llevinso : Yelling / preaching to the crowd = the lights are on, but no one is home.
Seriously though, people who expect all women to always be impeccably coiffed (NO SHORT HAIR EITHER) and made up, dressed up to the nines, smiling, skinny with giant boobs and arse, etc. aren’t treating them as people. If you are upset after seeing a woman who doesn’t fit your very narrow and rigid standard of feminine appearance and behaviour, you are refusing to accept her personhood and agency. Women aren’t decorations or pets and don’t owe pretty to the world.
Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
LilliV : Wow, that’s ridiculous!
One time while I was walking to the train to go to work (so like 7AM) some old guy yelled something vulgar at me about wanting to taste me or something just as gross. I spun around and yelled “Disgusting! You’re old enough to be my grandfather!” and then just continued on my way. I think the guy was so shocked that I said anything that he was speechless.
The worst time though was when I was waiting for the train (why is public transit always involved?) and some guy came up to me and said “Damn girl, you look good. I know what I’ll be thinking about in the shower later.” Then he proceeded to stare at me and lick his lips. The reason this PARTICULARLY sucked was I was on my way to the doctor’s office because they found something that meant I could possibly have cancer. So I just started crying there on the train platform. It was awful. Luckily though I was fine and cancer free.
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
llevinso : ewwwwwwwwwww. I usually don’t respond because half of them are just trying to get a rise out of you, but I’m pretty protective of my momma. She is an amazing bad-ass lady despite being dealt a pretty shitty hand in life. And I turned out pretty freaking awesome (if I may say so myself) due to her hard work in the face of such adversity so his comment just got right under my skin. If I turn out to be half as great a mom as mine is I’ll consider myself a success.
I’m glad you were ok!