- 4 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married since about a year of being together, two years of knowing each other. After we celebrated our one year anniversary he wanted to take me to pick out a ring he said, “I want you to have the perfect one” I was ecstatic! He set a side a day and we went searching. Looking back at that day I wish it never would have happened. I looked at several rings at several stores, he suggested I try many on so I knew how they felt on. He even talked to a lady about financing and payment options!!! He told me it wasn’t as pricey as he originally thought. As we were leaving the store, I was asking him about when his proposal was going to happen, I like to have time frames so I am not getting my hopes up, it is exhausting. He wouldn’t give me a time frame because he said he wanted it to be a surprise. As we were leaving the store he exclaimed, “I already know how I am going to do it, I just want to tell you because your my best friend but I cant”. He told our friends that we went to look at rings, even his family. After this I was expecting a ring after a few months. Well a 6 months went by and still nothing. He said that he would like to live with me for at least 3 months before we got engaged, I agreed because it is totally different living with someone, then just sleeping over on the weekends. Now its almost been 2 years together and nothing. I feel like I am just the girl he gets to live with, lets me play the wife role, but really has no commitment. We talk about getting married occasionally; he either changes the subject, says he wants to stop bickering, or tells me that he wants more stability. I am dying waiting!!! I don’t know what he is thinking. We do disagree, we have disagreements on how to fold the towels, what kind of toilet paper to buy, if the fan gets left on at night or not. It makes me laugh to think of how silly our arguments are about. We don’t have a perfect relationship. I don’t ever expect to be perfect, but he is my best friend. I just don’t know why he is stalling, using crutches as excuses. Has anyone gone through this? I would love to have some insight on what your boyfriends were waiting for. I don’t want to pressure him, but I need to hear something!!!