(Closed) Why are people so annoying?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definately a problem!  First I’d consider how close of friends they were with you mom.  You kinda don’t wanna tick like your mom’s lifetime best friend off -even though they are completely not following etiquette.  Personally, I’d pull the whole "we’re limited in our seating, and we had only planned on having the company of you and your husband" card. 

Best trick ever for other brides-going ahead and filling out the response cards with names.  If you have your calligrapher do it, it appears beautiful and something extra.  While you as a bride can rest assured little Suzy doesn’t come uninvited as well as you don’t receive a blank card with no names! 

 Hope you get to the bottome of this-sanely!

Post # 4
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

You can create a new table for the guests who haven’t replied yet, or are bringing extra guests.  This way, if they don’t come, your tables don’t look so empty and if they do, they’re not squished.  And extra table is easier to work with and can be easily removed if not needed.  If your guests are going to be rude and bring extra guests, all you can do it try to be nice, but not bend backwards for them.  Are you paying for the wedding, or is your mother?  If your mother is helping with the costs, and money isn’t an issue for her, I would just let it go and let her friend do whatever she wants.  You’ll barely notice it at the wedding.

 However, if you are paying for the reception, I would have a firm word with your mother that this is unacceptable. 

 We always have guests who bring extra people, or reply no and come, or reply yes and never show up.  In the end, it all evens out.

Post # 6
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2007

Ugh, Alison, I feel your pain.. big time. My wedding was last month and I had pretty much this exact situation. Except the family in question (where only the parents were invited) were going to bring their FOUR children – including a baby, which I was firmly against having at the wedding. I was so far beyond furious. They are my mom’s (2nd!) cousins and she saw nothing wrong with letting them come, despite my arguments that a)we didn’t have room and b)it’s the sheer principle of the matter. So. Unbelievably. Rude. This family was the source of many, many an argument with my mother.

In the end — and it pains me to have to tell you this — I just gave in. It wasn’t worth the argument with my mom, I had bigger things to worry about, and I didn’t want to be the source of family bitterness at future gatherings (despite the fact that I hardly know these people.) My parents were also footing the bill for the reception, which gave them even more ground. I suggest that you just give in and do some painful seating rearrangement, and forget about it, as hard as it will be. I feel for you!

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