(Closed) Why are people so rude?!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ChellFish22:  Oh man, that’s terrible!  

I’ve been really fortunate in that I haven’t really heard any rude comments (so far anyway), but I can’t even imagine how I’d react if someone (especially someone I considered a good friend) said something shitty like that to me.  

I’m assuming from your post that you’re in a long distance relationship.  If that’s the case, I’d just have to think that maybe she just doesn’t understand it.  My fiance and I were long distance for a little over two years before I moved to be in the same city, and I definitely got rude comments about my relationship back then.  A lot of people just don’t take long distance relationships seriously.  I’m not saying this should excuse those rude comments … I’m just saying it’s definitely more common when dealing with those types of relationships.  It sucks, but I always wrote it off as “some people are just idiots.”

Post # 6
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

People often put their own resentments, disappointments, & values on to other people’s relationships. Brush it off, she doesn’t know what she’s talking about.

Post # 7
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1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ChellFish22:  Based on this story, I’d have to agree with you that maybe she’s just bitter.  Regardless, you’re absolutely right … No one should say something so rude to someone they consider a friend.

Post # 8
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9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @ChellFish22:  some people…

8-} *rolls eyes*

Any military wife can tell you, the benefits arr nothing special.

No kidding, like having your guy gone who knows where, for how long… or under what circumstances.  I sure as sh!t couldn’t do it… I just am not that strong a woman (and I consider myself to be a strong woman now at my age)

F-her (as in forget her)

She’s obviously a fairly juevenile person… saying dumb things… knocks your Engagement but then wants to be a Bridesmaid…. Pleeeease

angelinthesnowxo: (Reply # 2) makes a good point regarding LDRs.  Perhaps your friend figures that your relationship can’t be serious because you guys spend soooo little time together.  Or in her mind, if you aren’t living together it isn’t serious… The latter does seem to be a very common view nowadays… oh how the pendulum has swung the other way !!

Ignore her.

Lol, if you don’t send her an Invite (or ask her to be a Bridesmaid)… and then if she has the gumption to ask you where hers is (and if she is as RUDE as you say… she will).  You can justly reply… 

“Oh sorry, from our previous conversations, I got the feeling that you weren’t that supportive of the marriage… and we only want supportive people around us on our Wedding Day”

Works for both an Invite Question or any about being a Bridesmaid.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
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2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@ChellFish22:  Out of curiousity, how did you respond when she said that? I think I would have gotten really mad at her, or possibly hung up.

Post # 12
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2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@ChellFish22:  Completely understandable! When people are being that outrageously rude, it’s hard not to snap. I probably wouldn’t answer her calls or return her messages- some “friend”!

Post # 13
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is ridiculous! Im sorry someone is so ignorant to say something like that to you. Im a military wife and the benefits are just OK nothing special like I dont even get dental.

My husband is finally getting out in a month or so and I couldnt be happier. Haha..so done with the military.

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