(Closed) Why are people worried about how much my wedding costs?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

They are probably wondering because they couldn’t afford it themselves.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

People are so strange when it comes to weddings.  Really they feel like it gives them the liberty to ask all sorts of questions that would otherwise be off limits.  My advice is to just let it roll off your back.  Remember just because they’re asking doesn’t mean you have to give them a response.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

we’ve had a little bit of the same drama. i’ve had some people ask ‘how on earth can you afford that venue/ring/band/photographer/dress/cake/honeymoon?’

i’ve also had people ask what our income is, as a couple, since apparently we are having some huge extravagent affair.

truth is, i’m a great deal finder and budgeter, and it’s not anyones business where our money is coming from. if i wanted to put $45k on a credit card to pay for all this, well, that would be my problem.

eat the food, drink the wine, enjoy the band. it’s not your place to analyze how it got paid for.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@trugem  i am not a DIY type person, but i can shop better than anyone i know!

but, even if i was paying full price for everything–it’s none of their business! i couldn’t believe when someone asked us what our income was. i must have just had a completely stunned look on my face!

i’ve had people ask what we are paying per person too–trying to add up how much everything costs.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I think it is interesting how different people/ social cultures are about money. NO one asked me what things cost! Not my ring, not my dress anything!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2008

People at WORK ask me how much everything costs – the dress, food per person, how much is being spent in total – it is REALLY uncomfortable! One person in particular has twice already asked how much my dress cost… I do not answer the questions- it is a really bold thing to ask! I would never ask those questions even if I was curious!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My parents are pretty loaded, so no one is wondering where our $$ is coming from. I’m sure people say things behind my back all the time though like I’m making them spend too much on this or that. Truth is, my parents have made all the big $ decisions so far!! They chose the venue, the menu, the band (we wanted a DJ!), told me to get a fancier dress, gave me a super long guest list, I could go on all day! I don’t mind, b/c everything is fabulous and I love my Mom’s friends!

I’ll tell you one thing though – if we didn’t have the $$ we wouldn’t be spending it!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hear you!  Upon hearing what our venue was, I got a lot of “Wow you guys must be loaded!” Um, no.  Fiance and I budgeted EVERYTHING really really well.  And we found great deals online for invitations, flowers, favors, and all the extras that we wanted. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@beeee beeee, I could’ve written the exact same post!! Upon telling one coworker I got engaged, her immediate response was “who is paying for the wedding”? Since then, she constantly comes by with tips for saving money and to ask more detailed questions. I don’t mind the money saving tips, but I don’t really want to discuss our private financial choices with her. Sheesh!

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