(Closed) Why are some woman just plain mean???

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow. Sarah sounds like a five-year old. 😛 I would need to vent after all that, too!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I don’t understand WHY exactly you NEED her in your life. Cut her off. I know you have friends in common  but if you limit your time together to when you and other friends are hanging out, then it might be better.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Awww, I’m sorry you are dealing with such difficult and negative people! That is never a fun situation to be placed into. Especially as adults, it is tough to deal with those “high school” problems, although it seems like they still tend to happen more often than tehy should. I would definitely recommend limiting as much contact as possible with Sarah. She does not sound like a super great person by any means. Just ignore her the best you can, which I know can be hard when she is being so nasty to you. Be the bigger person and rise abover her childish antics. Best of luck!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Agree with bRooklyn.

“Keep your friends close but your enemies closer”?? Um, why bother?

A lot easier to just not have enemies.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When I come across mean women, I just tell myself they’re jealous.  It’s either that or I try to give them the benefit of the doubt that they’ve had something traumatic happen to them that made them that way.

I have a co-worker who LOVES to brag/talk about her family, vacations she goes on etc.  Whenever someone else tells them they’re going on a vacation, she gets this weird look and doesn’t say anything like “oh that sounds awesome” or “have fun!”  She just says “oh okay” or something to that effect.  She never thanks or congratulates anyone when big things happen.  It’s so frustrating and I believe it’s because she’s jealous, but I also know she has issues with her husband.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’m in the boat that says there’s no need to have enemies.  Sorry, but friends and people that care about you  should not treat you mean because of jealuosy or any other reason.

 

Good

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Sorry I hit send too fast.  Meant to say Good luck and I realize that situations like this can be difficult!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I wouldn’t want anybody like that in my life. Especially, since she’s not family. Why bother?

If I were you, I’d see the other friends when she isn’t around.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

Life is too short to have ‘friends’ like that.  Chalk it up to personal growth and maturity and put some distance between you guys post-wedding.  Seriously – that girl needs to grow up and it’s not your job to do.  Focus on your Darling Husband and your soon to be child (congrats, btw) and realize that life will always be filled with people who are dealing (or can’t deal) with their own issues and they are toxic to everyone around them.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ahh, brush it off girl. It’s obvious that her nasty demeanor and comments are just a mask for her own insecurities.  It makes it sting that much more when you don’t give in to her.

But I agree with the other ladies that there really is no need for people like this in your life. You should be surrounded by people who care about you and love you!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

@MissFlipFlops: thanks for the additional details about the dynamics of your interaction.  Honestly, I’d call her out on her BS when it goes down.  Don’t let her walk over you by not reacting to her bad behavior!  One or two times of calling her out on her rude behavior should do the trick.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh I missed your last post. But Oracle’s right, maybe she will be embarassed that you called her out and leave you alone.

Be strong!!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Here is a quote from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements that gave me a little perspective:

“Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

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