(Closed) why are there wedding showers?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

The custom of the bridal shower is said to have grown out of earlier dowry practices, when a poor woman’s family might not have the money to provide a dowry for her, or when a father refused to give his daughter her dowry because he did not approve of the marriage. In such situations, friends of the woman would gather together and bring gifts that would compensate for the dowry and allow her to marry the man of her choice.

 

I googled it 🙂 Totally interesting and not what I would have thought

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@mwitter80: <– hmm, that is very interesting!!

I love the idea of wedding/bridal showers.  It is a day to get presents.  But more important, to me anyway, is that I get to celebrate my upcoming nuptuals with a lot of women in my life who are important to me.  There’s a lot more imtimacy involved at a shower than at a wedding.  Games can be played, questions asked, and I will have a lot more time to spend with each guest than at the wedding itself. 

I’m not sure how other brides feel on this, but if someone gives me a great gift at the shower, I don’t expect another great gift, or necessarily one at all, for the wedding.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

At first I thought it seemed like a weird tradition, but it is really fun to have a party that is all about the bride. We had a ‘normal’ shower, and it was really nice. I got a lot of lingerie and nice gifts for me, as well as some gifts from the registry. I wouldn’t expect gifts for both the shower and the wedding..it was just a little perk! 

You’re only a bride once…

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s like an unformal recognition of our wedding, but without the pressure the actual day brings.   Future Mother-In-Law is also using it as a meet and greet for some of her friends and family.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

OP, that’s how I view them, which is why I didn’t want one (and didn’t have one). To be honest, I don’t see the point of ANY pre-wedding stuff. We didn’t have an engagement party or bach parties, either.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I assumed that a bridal shower was when the older women, and friends give the bride advice, and gifts to help her along in her future marriage.  Kind of a ‘we love ya, and are watching out for you.  Here’s things/ideas/advice that can make the rough times of life go a little smoother.’

But then, I’ve never been to a bridal shoewr, so idk.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ve been wondering this myself for a long time! That is interesting.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love getting gifts, but all the showers/parties are so confusing! It’s like you have to buy several different gifts because the bachelorette party is different from the bridal shower which is different from the actual wedding gift. I’ve kind of figured out a formula though. I figure that I will spend $100 on the couple. $10 goes to trashy panties, $30-40 for the bridal shower gift and then $50-60 for the wedding gift.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

All that party business I can’t believe some people do all four.. engagement party, bridal shower, bach-party, then the wedding/reception. Sorry its just too much IMO. I can’t be bothered.

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