(Closed) Why are weddings so damn expensive?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 33
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jadlnc:  Oh, I do hope you find something within your budget for dinner! For ours, it was about $300, and that was for five adults, including dinner, cider for toasting, non-alcoholic drinks, and dessert.  We have a lot of places to choose from, but the reason I chose the restaurant in question was not only was the food super delicious, but we dined in their private dining room–it was like a mini reception for five. 


Post # 34
177 posts
Blushing bee

@NauticalDisaster:  Ahh, I could understand why then, for the food part, the quote would be higher – they are actually offering something quantifiable to justify the increase. What really gets me is when places say things like “Well, we charge more money for weddings because there is more pressure to get things right.” What? How can you possibly say that the extra cost is because of pressure? Do you not feel pressure to get things right for the other events that you host? Psh!

Post # 35
1581 posts
Bumble bee

The average wedding in Australia is $30k +!

Post # 36
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@LynnSnow:  I totally tried this! I asked for a price quote for a “party” and they said- here are our wedding packages you could use for your party.  Darn it!

Post # 37
36 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

One factor in weddings being expensive: people are much more transient today. If your family lives right in town or nearby, cake and punch works.

Our family members have moved all over for school and work. Everyone lives at least 1,000 miles away. When people are paying to fly to your wedding, a full meal is in order. And we have a big family so…$$$!




Post # 38
4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

As someone who plans a lot of events for work, I”m surprised that so many people are surprised by the cost of weddings.  If you are going to host dinner and drinks at a hotel for 150 people, it’s expensive!

Then add on all the bells and whistles people want these days (custom ordered ball gown, professional service providers for hair and make up and photography and videography, a cake that litterally took days to decorate…and on and on).  That stuff all costs money.

Post # 39
1682 posts
Bumble bee

SO and I are having an elopement ceremony and one place I looked at quoted me over €3000 to use a room for an HOUR. That’s 1/3 of our budget. Ridiculous. 

Post # 40
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s easy for things to get out of control! We spent a decent amount on our wedding, but it was an amount we were comfortable with and actually less than half of our max budget. I don’t regret how much we spent, but I certainly didn’t miss the places where we cut corners!

I always find it kind of funny when people are just baffled that you’re skipping something or going with a cheap version of something. Because we had a backyard wedding, we rented a big tent, in case of rain. The tent is held up by poles and when we got the quote it included several hundred dollards of “pole covers” which is basically white fabric that goes over the poles.

Me: We don’t need pole covers.

Them:Are you sure? They’re just raw wood and don’t look very nice.

Me: I’m sure it will be fine

(they send a quote with about half of the pole cover charges removed)

Me: There are still pole cover charges on this quote

Them: We removed the pole covers in the outside and only left the ones for the internal poles

Me: We really don’t need any pole covers on any of the poles. I promise.

Them: But the internal poles are just metal.

Me: Yeah. That’ll be fine. If it isn’t necessary to hold up then tent, then I don’t need them!


Post # 41
16 posts

There are so many ways to save on your wedding plans. If you set your budget first, then start planning. You may have to cut down the guest list a bit as well as some of the extras but you can have your cake and it it. See more at weddingplansonabudget.com and get some more great saving tips.

Post # 42
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It is ridiculous… I hear you.. it’s like anything have wedding on it, it would be expensive. 

Then again, Vancouver is an expensive City to begin with. I already say no to hotel banquet, even with Chinese restaurant… 200 guests (food only) are looking at 16K -20K … 

Photography is another crazy expense, mine including MUA, wedding gown, engagement photos, still cost me around 6300.  The cheapest (decent) decoration company I can find still cost me 2K. And yes, I let go of chair covers already and fancy invitation card.. flower for the bridal party would cost me 450 and I’m using silk flowers for the rest of the day for decoration purpose Church rental is going to cost me 1375. 


so not including wedding gown, rings, car rental etc. 


ai… hopefully, I can at least break even on the food.. 🙁 

Post # 43
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

I know what you mean! I am so stunned at the amount of money I hear many people spend on weddings. Especially when they can’t really afford it, and a lot of people I think lose the meaning behind getting married. I don’t think it is true for everyone, but it is true for many. My husband and I eloped. Our day was fantastic!  

Post # 44
19 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

You said it sister! You just have to find the right vendors that will allow you to be flexible with your budget.

Post # 45
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It is ridiculous. But it is a business, just like any other industry, vendors are there to make money. 

Post # 45
24 posts

My husband and I got married at the courthouse, with 8 guests. We went to our apartment afterwards for cake and punch. We then went to Texas Roadouse for dinner. I think we spent less than $300 for everything, because my dad and my hubby’s brother were fighting over picking up the tab for dinner, lol! The $300 included cake, punch, my dress and other attire, a new shirt and tie for my hubby (he already had a suit) and our marriage license and court fees. We used vintage glass ware instead of paper plates, I did my own bouquet, and our wedding was beautiful. You really don’t have to spend a fortune!

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