MemberSounds simple enough right? Someone asked me that question today, and I had to stop and think a moment.
Because I love him…. but seems like you could love someone and just be a relationship just as easily..?
Food for thought…
Has anyone ever asked you that?
MemberHe’s my best friend…we tell eachother everything and can talk for hours. We share the same values. He knows what i’m thinking or going to think in a situation…he knows me inside out and vice versa.
Over 5 years and he still makes me smile, and I still get butterflies from time to time.
MemberHmm we’ve asked ourselves that and I felt like marriage wasn’t for me until last year. The answer? I think it will be nice to have our “day” together to share with our friends and family and show our commitment to each other, kind of like marking the next chapter in our lives. It will also make his family so, so happy and I think people will generaly take us more seriously as a couple (although I wish that wasn’t the way things were).
MemberI THINK IF SOMEONE CAME UP TO ME AND ASKED THIS I WOULD BE A LITTLE OFFENDED. SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING SOMEONE WOULD ASK WHEN THEY DONT THINK YOU SHOULD BE GETTING MARRIED. Just reaslized thats all in caps but to lazy to delete 🙂 Not saying your question is rude, just saying how i would feel if a friend or family member asked me.
Dont we all get married because we cant imagine living our lives without our significant other?
MemberHaha are we allowed to give stupid answers?
If so, I married DH because the Army would pay us more, because I can’t move bases with him unless we’re married, and because my maiden name was a mouthful and I REALLLLY wanted to get rid of it. 
MemberI got married because he’s my best friend and I wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Being without him is a scary thought
MemberMemberbostongirl27 Bahahaha! Those things are damn expensive 😛
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MemberI hate when people ask that question-it’s none of your damn business why I’m getting married, and I certainly don’t make you justify why you’re single (although if you’e this rude I could venture a guess).
When people ask me that I usually give them a smart-ass response like “because I like his last name better” or “because I want someone to pay all my bills-I really like shoes”. Ask a stupid question….
Member@Jezika I totally agree, not that marriage was not for me, but I think you have a very real life answer
For those that say they would feel insulted. this came from a very dear friend of mine, we were simply conversing on life.. she had mentioned she got married because she wanted kids.. and I had told her kids was not on the top of my priority list.
if a stranger asked me.. I may feel alittle slighed… but all in all, I think its a question we all should think about the answer too, and whatever that answer is. Kudos to you
Esp the Kitchen Aid Mixer!! haha gotta love that!
Member@smartandcute2boot: this made me laugh. Too lazy to delete.
I dont get why someone would ask that? Do you answer emotionally, legally, economically? There are a million different reasons.
Member@Swizzle – Those are all great ways to think about it and break it down into –
MemberOk – I’ll answer seriously.
Because I want to build a life WITH him rather than just have him in my life.
MemberGosh… I suppose…
1. Emotional. I still believe that marriage is the best environment in which to raise children. Because it is legally hard to leave, you are also forced to work through things more (that said, I think we do a pretty good job of that now). I also want to publically commit to my best friend and favourite person in a show of our love. Finally, I want a big party, both because it will be fun and also because I want to pay back my family for all the love and attention they have shown me over the years.
2. Financial. You get tax breaks if you are married. You also get certain legal rights with regards to your spouse. I will also get a share of his pension… I have no pension at all otherwise. None of these things apply to cohabiting couples where I live.
3. Religious. I believe that declaring your vows before God is a powerful thing, and provides a solid basis for our future relationship.
So… largely unromatic then…
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