Post # 1
Some people like to ask that question when they find out you are engaged. I was surprised to hear it come out of someone’s mouth the other day, and it took me off guard. I wanted to have a quick, witty answer, but my mind went blank!
Needless to say, I’ve been thinking about it a lot since then. And I did figure out why I’m getting married. I would like to give you the opportunity to answer the same question for yourself. Keep it to yourself if you like or go ahead and post about it if you like. Why are YOU getting married?
My answers started with…”well..because we are in love” but that sounded flimsy. so then i thought “because we make eachother better people; we help eachother achieve our goals” but that still left me wondering…
Why a marriage? Why not just live together (as we already do) forever and not worry about the paper?
Then it finally hit me!
I WANT TO BE MARRIED! Sounds simple enough. Right? But I wasn’t looking for a husband, not even a boyfriend, when I stumbled into this “terminal” relationship…
But now that I’m here, I realize it’s for all those reasons.
I am getting married because I want to be married and because I love him and because we make eachother better, happier people.
Post # 3
We are getting married because we love each other, make each other better people, and want to spend our lives together. We could easily spend our lives together without getting married, but we want the legal recognition of being each other’s spouse (medical decisions, insurance, etc.)
We make each other so happy, and for me, that is a reason to get out of bed in the morning every day for the rest of my life: the fact that I make someone else so happy that he tells me on a daily basis how lucky he feels to be with me, and that I feel the same.
Post # 4
People ask all the time. And I also had the same answer as you…… Because I (we) want to get married!
Post # 5
Besides the obvious answers (love, commitment, etc), marriage affords you a lot of legal rights you simply don’t get when you are just living together. That is really important to me! It also makes the relationship more binding, so in a way, it forces you to work at keeping it healthy more, when maybe you wouldn’t if it were easier to “get out”.
Post # 6
When people ask this, I feel like responding “why is it your business?”, but generally just give an honest answer: We wanted to give each other (and our future) children the legal protections that only marriage provides.
We already loved each other and were committed, and lived together and all that jazz – but at the end of the day, should anything happen, there is now no question (legally) about our status.
Post # 7
Because that is what we decided to do.
Post # 8
I don’t think I’ve ever gotten this question from anyone else, but I ask it of myself a lot. I don’t intend to ever have children, am not straight (though marrying a guy), and the idea of putting on a pedestal this sort of two by two, man and woman coupling as ideal really gets me down.
He is my partner and our intent is to commit our lives to each other, but I honestly don’t know that we need to be married to do that. Especially since so many people we care about don’t have that option because their partner is of the same sex. There’s nothing current in our life that will change – except our tax filing status.
The more I thought about it, it came down to one thing – if god forbid something should happen to either I or my partner, I want the other to be next of kin, in the room, making the decisions. I like the idea of making a public and legally binding commitment to each other, showing that we intend to be there for each other all our lives, but that’s really what it comes down to.