(Closed) Why are you having a “big” wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m having a big wedding because our family is enormous.  7 brothers and sisters on my dad’s side, all with kids and grandkids, and 3 on my mom’s side.  I’m close to all of my cousins, and we’re just going to have to make it work.  Luckily, in the Lao culture, people who go to the Buddhist wedding give money, traditionally to pay for the wedding and help the young couple start their new life.  The daytime “American” civil ceremony is something I’m paying for, to include all of our friends who might not be comfortable at the Buddhist wedding, and it’s a catered BBQ at a state park.  The Buddhist ceremony will be at night, at a banquet restaurant, and the wedding gifts will more than cover the sit-down dinner and drinks.

This is going to be YOUR day.  If your mom has issues with it, then maybe you should just start quietly planning it by yourself.  She’ll come around.  I’m excited for you–have FUN with it!  (((hug)))

Post # 4
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m having a big wedding. It’s about a 4 day affair and we’ll have about 120-130 people at the “main event”.

I’m having a big wedding simply because I want one! My fiance and I are paying for it ourselves, we already have a house and that’s pretty much it.

So the next time someone asks why do you need/want a big wedding. Simply say: BECAUSE I WANT ONE!  But in your sweetest voice.

Enjoy it girlie! Wink

Post # 5
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would never say this to anyone in real life but since we’re anonymous on weddingbee, we’re spending $120,000 on our wedding. My dad is paying for the wedding and this was the budget he so generously offered. If my dad had not offered to pay for the wedding, we could have thrown an equally lavish wedding, but I honestly don’t know if I would. I’m definitely more of a saver and, while we already own a home, I would feel like the money could be put to better use on a down payment for a home large enough for children one day, my MBA tuition in a couple years, etc. On the other hand, I am absolutely loving the process of planning this wedding.

Have you already talked about money with your mom? Is it possible to include her in the planning process without telling her how much you are spending on stuff? Showing her pictures of centerpieces and asking her opinion doesn’t mean having to mention you’re spending $10k on flowers, for example.

Post # 7
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re having a big wedding because I come for a big Italian family and that’s what we do. hehe 🙂 I’ve three brothers and I’m the only girl, so everyone has been looking forward to a bride in the family. I’ve looked forward to being that very bride, too.

I married once before in a very small civil ceremony. We were going to have the big religious ceremony and reception about a year after, but I called it off and divorced as the guy was increasingly abusive.

Now, years later, I’ve the man of my dreams and we are finally having the big, beautiful wedding. We are very fortunate that my father is paying for it so we are helping to shop around and find the best deals for him and still be frugal about some things (centerpieces, favors, no “save-the-dates”, etc.) I paid for my own gown and will pay for other things that pertain to beauty that day. We’ll have about 120 people max and it is at a beautiful family owned winery nearby.

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