Post # 1
Looking over some posts today, current and past, I started thinking about why I come to the Hive. I come here because I know that every day there will be something new. Aside from the usual and expected onslaught of Ring and Dress porn, there is always a new idea or new perspective. I may not agree with that perspective and not everybody will agree with mine. But, in the end, just like any family that bickers, we remain a family. Whether it is arguing over diamond vs moisonite or one religios practice over another, or even at what age to do what, in the end we are all still here. Because, we are all a family. We don’t all get along but we find ways to work past that. A little drama is healthy. I enjoy the different opinions and perspectives. The honesty is what keeps me coming back. If my dress makes me look fat. I want to hear it! If I am being a bridezilla and need to chill, tell me! It is this honesty that keeps me in check. And, lets face it, if there was never any drama we would be complaining because people would think we were always being too fake and nice and never really honest.
So, I come here for the honesty. Good, bad, ugly, or whatever else. I come for the honest, family that we have.
Why do you come here?
Post # 3
I am technically ‘waiting’ ..but I dont really think of it as that… – I initially came here because my friend asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor and now I cant leave ..I love the Not Wedding Related boards and I love the environment & interesting board topics (wedding related or not)
**and to find more moissy porn / info !
Post # 4
I started coming here about 4 months before my wedding (when i discovered it) to get advice and give advice. I just got married last weekend so dn’t plan on spending as much time on it now but, it is still a fun site to go on when i am not to busy at work.
Post # 5
I came here after my mom showed me a picture on the website and I realized I never had checked it out! After I got on the first time, I was in love!
Honestly, I’m here because it’s a great atmosphere for ideas, and when I need help (quickly) I know the bees will come to my rescue! Also to pass the time! =)
Post # 6
I started coming here becuase its the only place that wont tell me to shut up after 20 minutes of wedding talk. Plus I LOVE to see the diversity and ideas your great ladies come up with. Sometimes its a breath of fresh air.
Post # 7
I come here for inspiration and new perspectives of old ideas, as well as much needed advice and to give advice too. Its nice to share ideas and opinions with other ladies who are also at the same stage in life as me. I feel that ladies on the bee never tire of talking abut weddings unlike anyone else I know
Post # 8
I actually found Weddingbee through Google. I was looking for options/opinions on using one last name professionally and another socially and this was the only place where I found an intelligent discussion of all the options, with lots of different viewpoints.
And I guess that is also the reason I’ve stayed. While I love ring porn as much as the next girl, it is the intelligent discussions with varying viewpoints and POLITE discourse on many topics…both wedding-related and not so wedding related that keep me coming back.
Post # 9
I’m with you Ms Hedgehog I just love being able to talk with ladies of so many backgrounds & perspectives. And, I enjoyed having an outlet for advice when I was in my planning and now being on the other side I like to be able to give back what I learned… Like don’t spend 100 hrs on making crazy DIY invites b/c they get thrown away.. lol
Post # 10
I come here because the blog is updated so often and because there are so many different perspectives. I also enjoy reading the forums, even if I’m not that vocal. There are also tons of great ideas and helpful information.
Post # 11
I actually have no idea how I found WB. But Im addicted.
I come here mostly because the only other person I can to about our wedding plans is Fiance and I am sure he gets sick of hearing me lol.
I just love seeing new ideas and love getting different perspectives. And even when I post something and get no responses (which is far to often lol) I still stay because … well I dunno lol. I just love it here!
Post # 12
@Mrs Hedgehog: I just want to Hug you right now.
To answer your question, I guess that I found a sense of community in the Hive that is hard to find. I originally came here look for ideas and somewhere to be around wedding things without driving my FH completely insane, but what I found was a real community with ladies and the occasional gent that I charish. I have actually made friendships here and that was something that I never expected but am lucky to have.
I agree that there is the occasional battle of whits, but I love the fact that in the next post you will see the same two sharing ideas and ooohing and aughing over eachothers dresses. I also love the fact that when someone is in need, or a place to vent, the Hive circles the wagons and makes it a warm safe place to be. With one being true, as is the opposite, when a bee is in need of a good old kick in butt, the hive is there too.
It has been a pleasure to be a member of the Hive, and I plan on sticking around for awhile.
Post # 13
I first came to discuss wedding topics and get lots of feedback on different ideas.
I still love to talk wedding stuff, but I think what keeps me here is the community of women who are so supportive and caring.
Post # 14
I’m here because I grew tired of Y!Answers wedding section and I found this place on google when looking for moissanite photos and reviews. I first came across the Knot, but the ads and just the terrible structure of the site made me want to run, but I wanted to read other reviews from real brides. I remember reading a thread on the knot about moissanite with just so much bad info and there was ONE person trying to give the facts. She basically got chased out by the other brides who were spreading the false info.
Then I came across weddingbee via another review thread and I liked the layout and the tone better so I stayed!
Post # 15
I first started posting because I am totally useless at a lot of wedding planning stuff – I’m awesome with logistics and practical stuff, but when it comes to dresses, shoes, dealing with people (well, other than telling them no… I’m really good at that), decorations, what actually needs to occur at the wedding – I’m awful.
I love that there are people here who not get excited at helping me choose a dress or shoes or accessories instead of laughing at me for being useless or for bringing up wedding talk again.
I also really like NWR/more discussion type posts. I feel like there’s a whole range of people on weddingbee and it’s really interesting to hear experiences and opinions from people in different situations with different backgrounds.
Post # 16
I come here for the multitudes of information. I come to learn about weddings, others relationships, babies, pregnancy, family and life in general outside of my safe zone. I come to make friends with women who understand what waiting is like. I come to check up on Mrs. Poodle, Mrs. Zebra and Mrs. Panther among a multitude of other amazing bees. I come to have a place to discuss all of the things I want to do one day when I’m finally married. I come to bitch, whine, complain and cry over the tough portions of life.
Finally, I come to learn how to be a better person. I come to learn how to avoid bridezilla, how to handle crazy family, how to deal with no RSVP’s and how to attempt to be the bigger sweeter person in 99% of situations. I honestly believe that one day when I’m finally planning my own wedding so many things will no longer come as a surprise that I will be able to plan with as little stress as humanly possible. So thank you ladies for giving me some insight beforehand and helping me learn a little and share a lot.