(Closed) Why are you marrying/did you marry your husband?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Have you done premarital counselling? I plan to with my Fiance so we can make sure we’re on the same page on all the hard to talk about stuff.

Im marrying my Fiance because we are great together. We rarely fight or even disagree, we have lots of the same interests, we can spend hours doing nothing but just being in each other’s company is enough to keep us happy.

We take care of each other when sick, we split the household duties equally without even discussing it, 

we have a lot of the same goals, desire for children, travel, retirement.

Hes a hard worker, very ambitious, so that’s a huge turn on for me. And he’s honest, never checks out other women and would never consider cheating. 

I could really go on for days, but i don’t think that would help with your cold feet.

If you can’t swing premarital counselling, maybe have a discussion about the things often brought up in those sessions. How to raise children, where to live, how to divide finances, etc. 

Post # 3
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4074 posts
Honey bee

charmbee101:  Honestly, based on your last post about him talking trash about you to his friends to make himself look good, I’d have cold feet too if I were you. 

One of the many reasons I want to marry my Fiance is because we have a mutual respect for each other. Your Fiance doesn’t sound respectful, sorry. 

Post # 4
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2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m marrying him because when I’m stressed or anxious, even if he’s the root cause, him giving me a hug makes me feel more calm and overall happier. We are ridiculous and goofy together, he makes me laugh harder than anyone ever has. 

Our minister is just having us do the exercises in this book instead of counselling sessions, so far it’s been a great experience. 

Post # 5
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Because he gives my heart a home. He knows when to tell me to stop being a baby and when to smother me with love and kisses. He is the strongest, hardest working man I’ve ever met and he loves our daughter like she’s the only child on earth. He knows my soul and has pieced it back together after years of heartache. *violin music, tissues pass around*

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

charmbee101:  BMoreBecc:  + 1000   OP it sounds like you have a good reason for “cold feet”.  From your previous post, it doesn’t sound like he respects you.   Respect coupled with love is what I think is key to a long marriage. We’ve been married over 32 years. In My Humble Opinion,  I don’t think love alone can get you through.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

As someone who’s been divorced I would say (without knowing anything at all about your situation): cold feel are a sign of something wrong. I should have listened to my feelings the first time round, I really wish I had.

 

 

Post # 8
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783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My husband and I were together for over 7 years before we got married, and also lived together for a bit first, so we knew everything about each other and there was no question. We are each other’s best friends and that I think is really important. He will listen to me talk about my day, he is always there for me when I need someone, and he supports me in every single thing I do. No matter what happens we always know we can count on each other, and we can get through our disagreements. You need to have trust and respect for a relationship to work, as well as good communication. We aren’t perfect by any means but we both know what we need to work on to improve ourselves and improve our relationship.

Post # 9
Hostess
3085 posts
Sugar bee

I’m a “tough girl”.  I don’t like to be vulnerable, hate relying on other people for anything, keep my soft side hidden.  He sees through all that and allows me to be my true self.  I can lean on him, and it’s okay.  He has demonstrated to me, beyond any doubt, that based on his actions he loves me more than I could possibly express in words.  I feel completely safe with him, and I know when it counts he will not let me down.  He brings so much light to my life.  

Ultimately, I want to go through every single rough spot, tragedy, happy moment in life with him by my side.  It feels 100% right to me.  That’s why I am marrying him.

 

Post # 10
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1027 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Based on your other post, your Fiance sounds like a jerk. I want to marry my Fiance because he is my best friend, always there for me, lifts me up, knows how to calm me down, and loves me to death. I love him! I don’t see my life without him and only picture HIM when I’m older. He inspires me to be my best self. I would seriously consider counseling.

Post # 11
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356 posts
Helper bee

I married my husband because he is my soul mate. He supports and encourages my dreams, always has my back, loves me unconditionally, thinks I’m the hottest thing even when I’m sick and gross and can’t get out of my sweats, and thinks the world of me and always puts me first.  He is truly the one person who understands me best, even when I don’t understand myself. LOL. He is the love of my life.

Post # 12
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

charmbee101:  he makes me a better person, there is nothing he wouldn’t do for me, he always has my back, and there is no one I would rather go through life with. 

Post # 13
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

charmbee101:  Honest opinion here- judging by your previous post, and the fact that you mention still having cold feet after the situation, I would definitely encourage you to do some really deep soul-searching and perhaps consider pre-marital counselling so that you can voice your concerns and work through them together. If he is truly the right man to spend the rest of your life with, you will know, because there won’t be any major anxieties. 

In terms of why I married my Darling Husband, in the nearly 4 years we have been together, I have found that he is the most loving, caring, supportive and respectful man I know.  He’s supported me through some of my biggest life struggles and transitions, he believes in me, and he works hard to care for our little family (ie us and our dog haha).  We get along extremely well (no major fights that either of us can recall), and I think that’s in large part because we communicate openly with each other and have a mutual respect for each other.  He makes me a better person.  I could go on and on, but I guess my point is- when you have that mutual love, respect and support, you know that it’s right and meant to be

Post # 14
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2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

charmbee101:  We share the same values and I love his character. He’s handsome, that’s a bonus lol. We both want to be recognized as a family and to build a life together. 

Post # 15
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123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel

We’d been together six years, lived together for three, We’ve been sick around each other, had fights, been travelling, shared money, struggled together, succeeded together. We’re an awesome team.

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