(Closed) "Why aren't you married yet?"

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was with my now-husband for almost nine years. So naturally that question was always asked! We were 20 when we met, and got married at 31. The question came up plenty…and honestly, because him and I had discussed it, my answer was always “do you want to pay our rent?” HA! we both lived with our parents and while we both helped our parents, neither of us paid a full rent. I think I joked a few times and used the “ask him…” response but that really wasn’t fair to him since we both knew there was no way either of us were ready for the financial commitment   

Post # 32
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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imaginaryisland:  i know this time in your life really sucks. its funny cuz DH remembers it being so blissfull while i was pulling my hair out lol for like a year and half. felt like 3!! but when people asked me those types of questions i was honest. ” just waiting for him to ask. we have the rest of our lives together so no big rush” people only ask the women that. which is weird cuz dont they know its usually the guy that we are waiting on. psssh

Post # 33
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399 posts
Helper bee

In my current relationship, if people I know and care about ask:

“Well SO isn’t divorced yet.  After 13 years he finally filed the paperwork, so when he’s officially a single man, we can stop living in sin.  Gotta start somewhere” or “Chris Evans still doesn’t know I’m alive, so I’m sticking with SO for now ;)”

If acquaintances or strangers ask:

“I could be happily committed and remain unmarried forever, but thanks for asking!”

**  I joke about living in sin, but I don’t actually feel that way.  While I’m not stoked on being in a relationship with a married man, they have no emotional, physical, or financial ties to each other.  They have both moved on, just never bothered getting divorced…for 13 years ** 

Post # 34
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Newbee

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Luce587:  I LOVE the “haven’t decided if I’m keeping him,yet.” I’m totally stealing it. I’m 38, widowEd 15 years with a teen son. He’s 39, divorced, 3 kid’s. We’ve been dating 5 years but kept separate households. My friends/family (and he) all know I want to tie the knot. It’s HIS family and friends that ask why we’ve not…

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