Post # 1
I have several people who RSVP’ed yes and now are cancelling a week before. What’s the point in even sending the damn thing in if something better is going to come along.
I had someone cancel today that told me that she doesn’t go to weddings and funerals EVER. This is really something she could have said to me before she told me that she and a guest would be attending.
Is anyone else having this problem?
Post # 3
not yet, but considering that I have to have our final guest count 3 weeks out and cannot change it after that, I’d be TO’d and want to send them each a bill for the money i’ll have to shell out even though they are going to be no shows!! How inconsiderate!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Oh wow that is awful! And strange…I’m so sorry!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
The same thing happened to us… although most people didn’t have the courtesy to un-RSVP, they just didn’t show up. People are so rude.
Post # 6
Thank goodness I didn’t have this problem…maybe because I had a small wedding, who knows? I was terrified that something like this would happen, and I’m sorry it’s happening to you. It does seem extremely rude.
Post # 7
same thing happened to us! a couple’s babysitter fell through, someone’s having surgery, someone else doesn’t have a ride (coming from out of state). we just gave our caterer the final count last week and this week all these people who said yes are now no’s–we could’ve saved some money!
Post # 8
That sounds weird. I can’t believe people un-rsvp or don’t just show up! I’m scared of this now!
Post # 9
I think we only had 4 no-shows, and two of them were a couple we were all surprised that they said they’d be there. I had several people tell me to tell the caterer we’d have fewer people than we were expecting but I didn’t listen. (The other two called to tell me they were really sick, and they called pre-ceremony so I knew as soon as they did.)
Post # 10
I haven’t had this problem yet but we just mailed out our invites on Tuesday. So we’ll see.
Post # 11
about 18months ago my friend (the bride) and i was walking to the car to go to the church and her phone was ringing with people saying they werent coming to the reception – no real excuse just “we cant make it”.
considering my husband and her other bridesmaids husband wasnt invited (my hubyb didnt care but the other bridesmaid was very peeved off by the lack of invite) so she could fit more people into her invite list i thought how rude to accept and then not show (unless there was a real reason, ie sickness, accident ect)
Post # 12
I guess the people who end up inviting their second-cousin’s sister’s fiance’s friend will fill the seats for the no-shows. I know–weird, but sometimes, it happens.
Post # 14
I don’t understand it. We have a large number of out-of-town invites I have a bad feeling this is going to happen to us too.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Is there a possiblity to snag some in-town friends who were sadly left off the guest list to fill the empty spots? I know that no one likes to be on the “B-list”/feel like “seconds” (I know I’d feel a twinge of resentment for thirty seconds), but everyone loves a party & if you explain that you initially REALLY wanted to invite them but felt pressured to invite your second cousin & her husband (you can make this part up, the new invites will never know) who have now “rudely fallen through”, you LOVE for them to attend, then maybe they’ll help solve your empty space problem & you’ll have more friends at the party.
I hope your wedding day goes much better…Good Luck!
Post # 16
We had a couple of last minute cancellations, and then one couple who didn’t bother to call at all!
Luckily we had wedding crashers who made up for it, so we were only down a net of 1.
It doesn’t matter in the end, but man can it make you crazy in the run-up.
I feel for you!