posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: have you ever gotten the dreaded line "why would he buy the cow when he gets the milk for free"
    yes-frequently : (49 votes)
    15 %
    once or twice : (109 votes)
    33 %
    NEVER! : (142 votes)
    43 %
    not that line but a line close to it. : (32 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Never! I can’t imagine someone saying that to me. I don’t even know how I’d reply.

    Post # 4
    1281 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I used to hate that statement and heard it often as Fiance were together 5 years before he proposed.  Rage explosion.

    Post # 5
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I just say back ‘why buy a car before you test drive it’ lol.

    Post # 6
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I hate that expression. I heard it a few times (all from the same person).. Fiance & I were together for 7 years before he proposed. I just pretended I didn’t hear her say it. I honestly couldn’t believe it even came out of her mouth. 

    Post # 8
    1642 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I hate this statement because it reduces women to the level of property.

    One, women should never be compared to cows, not even metaphorically.

    Two, no, my marriage isn’t comparable to me being purchased by anyone. It is a two-way agreement that we have BOTH decided on, not an “oh, I guess I’ll decide to eat a turkey sandwich” kind of decision.

    Three, sex is not my only redeeming quality, and it isn’t the only reason someone would want to marry me. What about my devotion, companionship, intelligence, humor, etc.? Putting sex on this ridiculous pedestal cheapens all these other, much more lasting and deeper qualities I have.

    Any man can find a prostitute or a one night stand. A lucky man finds a companion.



    Post # 9
    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I get it a lot from my grandfather who has become really blunt, rude and sometimes quite hurtful over the years. He told me that if I already had sex and since FH and I were living together he’d never marry me because he already had a sex slave…. Yeah. Real charming fellow.

    I don’t say anything to him about it because there’s no point, it would send him into a tizzy and I just don’t have the energy to deal with that. But if it were anyone else I’d probably use @HappilyEverAfter54 ‘s line. Haha.

    Post # 10
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Never, although a friend of mine got that comment from some random person and in her case it was the truth. Although, it really was none of that random person’s business.

    I was surprised I never got it, well…actually no I am not. I have a bad temper and have been told I get this “look” when someone is pissing me off.

    I mean, I was with my husband 3 years before we got married. Sleeping with him and such. I actually slept with him on the third date and we have been like rabbits ever since….. I moved in with him during the 3rd year and then we got engaged for 2 years.  Marriage has always been on his mind, I was the one that was hesitant. Probably because I was in my early 20s, wasn’t sure where my life was going type of thing. So, I think it varies with each relationship, but I don’t think it is anyone’s business and the whole cow thing I find to be insulting…

    Post # 11
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My cousin used to say that to me back when Darling Husband and I first started dating. It didn’t really bother me then since I didn’t have marriage on the brain but had she said that in recent years, I probably would have had a problem with it.


    Post # 13
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Hah, before I left for college my dad told me I should “try the pants on before you buy.” Love that man!

    I got so freaking tired of hearing that saying that we turned it into our save the date (well, most of them, the older relatives got a more traditional one). The saying still bugs the shit out of me when spoken in true seriousness, but it was kind of fun to use it and make fun of it. And we used it as if both of us were the cows :p

    Post # 14
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @LizLemon:  I think I love you for this.

    ETA: Oops! Looks like someone beat me to it!

    Post # 15
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012


    Brodie: My Grandmother always used to say “why buy the cow, when you can get the sex for free”.

    T.S. Quint: She said that?

    Brodie: All the time, before she became a lesbian on her 60th Birthday, but that’s besides the point.

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