(Closed) "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free."

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
Member
3099 posts
Sugar bee

@Pear85:  Definitely doesn’t annoy me.  I agree with it!

Post # 18
Member
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s a ridiculous saying. Not least because everyone knows that milk comes from the supermarket! Wink

Post # 19
Member
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t find it offensive, just ridiculously narrow-sighted and unneccesarily old-fashioned.  Having said that, you could re-frame it as, “You shouldn’t behave like a wife (living together, sharing bills, coooking, cleaning, sex) when he won’t make you his wife”…..which *is* a sentiment I’ve seen supported numerous times here on the Bee, so it’s not as antiquated as some think.

Eh, different folks will run their relationships in different ways that work for them.  If a nosy old biddy wants to judge, just laugh it off and tell her it’s 2013 and you’re the one buying the meat bahahahaha 

Post # 20
Member
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Why would you buy the cow if you don’t know if you like its milk? 

Post # 21
Member
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It would annoy me if I was living with a man and being strung along about getting married. 

Post # 22
Member
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Pear85:  my first thought – did you just call me a cow?

usually, i can not get pass this point lol

Post # 23
Member
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

View original reply
@Laurenplusalex:  Exactly. Also the flaw I see with the argument is that let’s say the guy does decide to marry you. Is he marrying you for you or to keep the perk package coming? It’s too much of a game imo. I think it’s best to just be honest up front about your wants/desires – that gives you the most even playing field, I would think. 

Post # 24
Member
2393 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
@solidarity:  

It would annoy me if I was living with a man and being strung along about getting married. 

+1

Post # 25
Member
9123 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Oops dbl post

Post # 26
Member
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

View original reply
@faeriehazel:  i got the giggles from that!

Post # 27
Member
9123 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

View original reply
@faeriehazel:  +1

it didnt bother me through the course of our very long unengaged relationship, because I figured whoever saying that is so out of touch and backwards that their opinion really didnt count for shit.

View original reply
@KhaleesiStormborn: lol exactly!

Post # 28
Member
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I always equated this to a couple moving in together and then the guy dragging his feet to propose (which I can think of several examples of among friends and acquaintances of ours)…I do hate the inferred comparison between cows/women/sex.  Sexist if you ask me.

Post # 29
Member
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@Pear85:  It doesn’t bother me, I find it a very true statement. Look at the waiting board. While giving away the milk works for some, the truth is that men have very little motivation to settle down quickly when they’re already getting all the benefits of marriage without having to work for it. Then women can’t deal with someone telling them that they believe that they may be wrong, so you end up with people flagging posts for saying it because then they’re criticizing their decisions and take it personally.

There used to be a time when people would be embarassed to say we’ve been together 10 years and nope, we’re not married. We’re not ready yet (but we own a home and have 4 kids).

Post # 30
Member
29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

View original reply
@BelliniChic:  It would annoy me if I was living with a man and being strung along about getting married. 

I definintely agree. There’s nothing wrong with living together before you’re married if you’re on the same page. My husband and I had a long talk before we moved in together hat a proposal was on it’s way and that it wasn’t acceptable to be strung along for years before he proposed. We were also ready to get engaged. We had just been long distance and wanted to live in the same town for a little bit before getting engaged. Sometimes I think it’s not good to move in together unless engagement is in the foresable future. Because people get comfortable and that’s when you end up with guys who just never propose. (Not that that happens every time, but seems to be when it happens more often.)

Post # 31
Member
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have to say it makes me giggle a little. I find old, dated sayings funny. When I was a teenager my grandmother told me “If you keep a penny between your knees, you’ll never get pregnant.” At the time it took me a few minutes to get it, but later in life I rather delighted in positions where you could, indeed, get pregnant with a penny between our knees. 

I dunno. This has never applied to my life so it’s never really been offensive. I think people  tend to get offended by things that hit too close to home. Since my fiance was ready for marriage before I was, this was never close to an issue. But I swear I wasn’t just using him for sex!!!! It just took me  awhile to get used to the idea of marriage and a kid.

The topic ‘"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free."’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors