Post # 1
I am going crazy with wedding planning! No one will give me any oppions, ugh I am so sick of hearing it’s your wedding if you like it then do it! I have changed so many things so many times…….. HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
Aww! Hugs. It will all come together, I promise! What are the things you’re most concerned about these days?
Post # 4
All I can say is…I feel your pain.
Post # 5
@tllang: Normally people have the opposite problem – family members trying to HIJACK planning. Consider yourself lucky.
When it comes to making decisions, commit and that’s it. Don’t lose focus – the most important thing is the marriage, not the party.
Everything comes together so don’t sweat it.
Post # 6
Hang in there- it sounds like you are having a rough time of it. I want opinions on mine too and got a lot of “whatever you want”. What I want was a special day that I could share with family and friends so their opinion really did matter. I got some better results talking to some of the family who hold the family gatherings regularly. Instead of asking if they though I should serve ___ or use ____ decoration, I would ask what they thought the family favorites were when they entertain. That helped me get a better grip on what would go over well.
If all else fails, give yourself a few days off from wedding planning. Find something super fun you love to do, enjoy that activity and let your brain recharge. I always have an easier time making choices after a day or two of doing something I love.
Post # 7
@tllang: I know how you feel. My Fiance does this to me all the time. I’ll ask his opinion and he says something like “I trust your judgement”. Thanks thats great, but I would love an opinon!
Post # 8
It could be worse, you could have others FORCING you to do things THEIR way.
Sometimes it is good to take a step back and have some time out when planning- it might be time for you to do this. 🙂
Post # 9
Hugs, it’s better than everyone having their own opinion that disagrees with yours. I chose to do a Destination Wedding to get AWAY from everyone’s opinions…lol
Post # 10
People might be hesitant because they don’t want you to choose something that you really don’t want. And sometimes it’s better that way. If I listened to what people told me, my wedding would have been about $10k over my budget.
Post # 11
Welcome to Wedding Bee…. ask for opinions & you shall receive 🙂
Post # 12
@Nic01: LOL that sounds a bit ominous. True, but ominous.
Post # 13
I get this too. For me I know why. I’m not very girly and most of my female friends are, so they naturally tell me to do what I want. Of course, like you, if I ask for an opinion… I’d really like one, even if it’s not what I end up doing. Being not so girly, having some input even if it’s something that makes me think “eek, ok… NOT that” is helpful. 🙂
Try starting off by telling them “Hey, I’d really like your opinion on…”. When they say “do what you want”, say “Oh, I will, but you’re good with this kind of thing and I’d really like to know what you think” or some such. That’s been working well for me.
Post # 14
LOL well I have four months left and I was fine I had boughten everything but then I changed my mind. For no reason of course, and now i’m running around frantic trying to purchase everything I now need for my new theme. I’m just glad my fiance is supportive, because i’m so worried about not being able to get everything taken care of in time I keep having wedding nightmares or just completely not sleeping !!!!!!!!!!!!! I’M SO STRESSED : (
Post # 15
Keep whoever it is you are upset about thats not giving their opinion to youl out of all wedding stuff. Trust me! Its easier when u make the decisions! Get used to telling them what u want!
get all your opinions here from the bees!
And more advice from me, dont have a bridal party! What a hard time ive had with them! Barf
Post # 16
Gosh. I know how you feel. I always appreciate the real opinions I get.
Im feeling so lost lately too. Wedding planning can be stressful. Especially when people don’t want to help. don’t know if I can be much help but to say that I know how you feel. and your not alone in that. Good luck