(Closed) Why can't anyone give open oppinions!!!!!!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww! Hugs. It will all come together, I promise! What are the things you’re most concerned about these days?

Post # 4
1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

All I can say is…I feel your pain.

Post # 5
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tllang:  Normally people have the opposite problem – family members trying to HIJACK planning.  Consider yourself lucky.

When it comes to making decisions, commit and that’s it.  Don’t lose focus – the most important thing is the marriage, not the party.

Everything comes together so don’t sweat it.

Post # 6
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hang in there- it sounds like you are having a rough time of it.  I want opinions on mine too and got a lot of “whatever you want”.  What I want was a special day that I could share with family and friends so their opinion really did matter.  I got some better results talking to some of the family who hold the family gatherings regularly. Instead of asking if they though I should serve ___ or use ____ decoration, I would ask what they thought the family favorites were when they entertain.  That helped me get a better grip on what would go over well. 

If all else fails, give yourself a few days off from wedding planning. Find something super fun you love to do, enjoy that activity and let your brain recharge.  I always have an easier time making choices after a day or two of doing something I love.  


Post # 7
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tllang:  I know how you feel. My Fiance does this to me all the time. I’ll ask his opinion and he says something like “I trust your judgement”. Thanks thats great, but I would love an opinon!


Post # 8
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It could be worse, you could have others FORCING you to do things THEIR way.

Sometimes it is good to take a step back and have some time out when planning- it might be time for you to do this. 🙂

Post # 9
5107 posts
Bee Keeper

Hugs, it’s better than everyone having their own opinion that disagrees with yours. I chose to do a Destination Wedding to get AWAY from everyone’s opinions…lol

Post # 10
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

People might be hesitant because they don’t want you to choose something that you really don’t want.  And sometimes it’s better that way.  If I listened to what people told me, my wedding would have been about $10k over my budget.

Post # 11
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

Welcome to Wedding Bee…. ask for opinions & you shall receive 🙂

Post # 12
196 posts
Blushing bee

@Nic01:  LOL that sounds a bit ominous.  True, but ominous. 

Post # 13
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I get this too.  For me I know why.  I’m not very girly and most of my female friends are, so they naturally tell me to do what I want.  Of course, like you, if I ask for an opinion… I’d really like one, even if it’s not what I end up doing.  Being not so girly, having some input even if it’s something that makes me think “eek, ok… NOT that” is helpful. 🙂

Try starting off by telling them “Hey, I’d really like your opinion on…”.  When they say “do what you want”, say “Oh, I will, but you’re good with this kind of thing and I’d really like to know what you think” or some such.  That’s been working well for me.

Post # 15
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keep whoever it is you are upset about thats not giving their opinion to youl out of all wedding stuff. Trust me! Its easier when u make the decisions! Get used to telling them what u want!

get all your opinions here from the bees! 

And more advice from me, dont have a bridal party! What a hard time ive had with them! Barf

Post # 16
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Gosh. I know how you feel. I always appreciate the real opinions I get. 

Im feeling so lost lately too. Wedding planning can be stressful. Especially when people don’t want to help. don’t know if I can be much help but to say that I know how you feel. and your not alone in that. Good luck

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