(Closed) Why can’t people just let it go? (sorry, long)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1251 posts
Bumble bee

Have you contacted your ex about this? I’d call/e-mail him and tell him to tell her to knock it off or you will have to take legal action. Even if you have no ambition to actually get the police involved, just threatening legal action should be enough to get them to leave you alone.

I made some silly mistakes once, and had a guy threatening to blackmail me, and after I told him I was going to call the cops if there were any further incidents, he dropped off the face of the planet.

P.S. Your ex is such a creep! You are like 24, and he is dating a HIGH SCHOOLER?

Post # 5
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That blows. I agree, ask the ex to tell her to knock it off.

But also, just a point here, an underage girl having sex with someone in their mid twenties is ILLEGAL and for good reason. Speaking as someone who was duped into dating a creeper like that, it needs to stop.

Post # 6
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry you are dealing with such losers. I mean, there isn’t a better word for it. Your ex sounds like a total creeper, but this girl isn’t such an innocent prize, either, from the sounds of it.

Post # 7
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If there is an ivestigation, your ex could end up in jail because she is still a minor in many states.

Post # 8
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

wow.. not only is your ex immature, he’s also petty (i just read your other thread) AND a total loser.  I second ILikePink’s idea.

Post # 9
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She said the girl was 15 when it started and that was 3 years ago. I think 18 is an adult in all states right?

That being said I would definitely bring it up with the ex, and say hey look, we’ve tracked the IP we know it’s you, if we get any further comments we will go the owner of the IP and ask them to block access. (Which basically means you will go to the school and tell them you are receiving harassing messages from their IP. Then they can take action without(maybe) involving the police.)

Another (maybe easier and less direct) route is to ask your ISP to block all incoming traffic from that IP. That way when they try to log in from the school they will get a “file not found” type error.

Post # 10
257 posts
Helper bee

i would give that STATUTORY RAPIST a call and tell him they better leave you guys alone or you will call chipld protective services on his sorry ass.

Post # 11
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I would definitely just ignore this. See if you can get the email address that it’s coming from blocked. Don’t stoop to their level by responding to them. They clearly aren’t mature enough to handle a real relationship, and you’re happy! There’s nothing you need from them, and it’s time for him to cease all contact with you. Save the emails so that you have them in the future in case this becomes a bigger issue, but definitely don’t dignify this with a response. Neither of them are worth it.

Post # 12
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree with blocking the email address/IP address.  I would NOT contact either one of them, they are clearly looking for a reaction.  Maybe just contact the school directly and let them know you are receiving harrassment from their IP address.  Ignoring it is the best way to go.  Also, you are so close to the wedding you’re bound to be stressed :-(.  But your Fiance sounds like a really wonderful guy, so I would try to concentrate on that if you could.  Sorry you’re going through this right now!  *HUGS*

Post # 13
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

She sounds like the girl who feeds off of drama, and is trying to stir it up. She is apparently having issues with the fact that you’ve moved on, are happy (happier than she is, probably), and there is no drama in her life.

I would report her, quite possibly even to the school where the IP address originated from. Then let it roll off your backs. You have much bigger and brighter things to think about – smile, girl! You’re getting married (and it’s not to that douche of an ex). =)




Post # 14
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would call you local police station and report it.  Hopefully, it will never escalate and you will never NEED to take legal action, but if you do, they will have a record of when it started.

Don’t respond to them.  I know it sucks, but ask your fiance to just ignore (but not delete) any further communication and (this is your call, but I think it might be best) to not tell you.  You have every right to be upset but it isn’t worth it!  Do what’s best for YOU and ignore these losers.  Seriously, sending someone stupid emails?  LOSERS.

Post # 15
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Just ignore it. If she’s 15 then she could just be having fun “mean girl” style. I was once the victim of a hate campagin from girls her age. At the time, they saw nothing wrong with it and it was just something else to do.

I, personally, wouldn’t report it. I mean, is it annoying and hurtful, sure, but if you don’t feel threatened or unsafe is it really worth starting something much bigger? The best reaction for someone trying to start mess is generally to just ignore them. If someone’s not getting a rise out of you, it becomes less fun and they move on to harass someone else.

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