- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
I posted about my ex contacting my Fiance via our wedding website about a month ago.
Both Fiance and I agreed not to give too much energy because we figured it wasn’t worth it. However, Fiance got curious and found out that the IP address was for a K-12 school one that had visited multiple times. Well, the ex’s girlfriend is in high school still. That kind of got me curious, but we decided to let it go and just move forward. We decided not to put password protection on the website because at that point there wasn’t really a purpose, whoever it was had the info they needed if they wanted to put energy into something.
Fast forward to this week, Fiance got another e-mail, same IP address, again, not so kind words (exact words: Dude she a hoe). He is going to report it as abuse and he told me not to worry about it, but I am worried about it because that’s me, it bothers me and I figured maybe writing it out would help. I don’t understand what this girl’s problem is. She is the 15 year old girl who was sleeping with my ex while we were together, she is the one that I found in bed with him, she is the reason we finally broke up. All that I don’t care about anymore, it was 3 years ago. I have forgiven her and him for it. Both my ex and I were young and stupid and held on to each other because we were comfortable. I accepted that, I have moved on. I am happy with my life and doing good things with my life.
Why are my Fiance and I getting this crap from this girl? I just don’t get it, I never bother them, we don’t live in the same town, the only teeny tiny thread that connects us at all is that my oldest friend is friends with a girl who is (kind of) friends with her. In a conversation with that friend I found out that ex and the girlfriend are living with his mom still and he’s been laid off from his job. So right now things aren’t going well for them, I am truly sorry about that, it sucks, but that isn’t my fault. Fiance seems to think that maybe she is unhappy with her life so she has to take it out on someone and that someone happens to be me. My mom thought maybe she is hoping to break us up (she’s not the brightest crayon in the box). But seriously WTH? I don’t get it. I haven’t had any contact with you, I haven’t bothered you, I haven’t done anything but lived my life and done what has been best for me.
Worse than all that is that I just don’t understand it at all why it bothers me so much. Maybe it’s because we are 37 days out from our wedding and I just don’t want or need this stress. I tried talking to my mom, tried breathing it out, but nothing hasn’t really worked. Then it bothers me that it bothered me in the first place. It’s like a vicious circle, and I don’t think my anxiety is helping the problem either.
Sorry bees. I just needed to vent. If anyone has any suggestions on how to put this out of my mind I would greatly appreciate it.